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19. Nice but the boys should have been there too

Sun Jun 24, 2012, 05:12 PM

Jun 2012

If I happened to be one of their parents, I would make sure my son would be available all summer to do chores around her house, clean, do laundry, mow the lawn, etc. Just my opinion. No pay. Just simple, nice volunteer work. Good-bye summer.

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father of bus bully hugs bullied grandmother [View all] Liberal_in_LA Jun 2012 OP

Yeah but where's the son? This is totally meaningless. What's the dad's benefit? n/t cherokeeprogressive Jun 2012 #1

Saw this on TV and had the same question proud2BlibKansan Jun 2012 #2

The article isn't clear about which father this was, but KarenS Jun 2012 #3

some of the boys have apologized. They are getting a zillion dealth threats. Cops are patrolling Liberal_in_LA Jun 2012 #4

I think that as a parent, Dan Jun 2012 #29

Yes, and I'm sure it meant a lot to her. polly7 Jun 2012 #5

Modeling. Plus when a kid has a behavior problem EFerrari Jun 2012 #9

Absolutely agree SickOfTheOnePct Jun 2012 #12

Agreed. MightyOkie Jun 2012 #32

Hubby would say, "Lead from the front." IOW set the example. Nuclear Unicorn Jun 2012 #81

+1 whatchamacallit Jun 2012 #49

Definitely. Chorophyll Jun 2012 #65

Can't say, but he should be at the this ladies house 4th law of robotics Jun 2012 #7

Restorative justice in cases like this might produce positive outcomes - for both the victim and the sad sally Jun 2012 #17

My first thought also HarveyDarkey Jun 2012 #11

No, not meaningless. lumberjack_jeff Jun 2012 #13

My own Dad dragged me to a neighbor's house by the short hairs on the back of my head. cherokeeprogressive Jun 2012 #20

THis father didn't apologize for his son, imo obamanut2012 Jun 2012 #34

I may be wrong but I believe the lady had said she wasn't ready to speak to any of the kids yet... Rowdyboy Jun 2012 #60

wow. Liberal_in_LA Jun 2012 #68

Responsibility of family Aerows Jun 2012 #24

Lame excuses. The kid behaves the way he did because of how he was raised. He got CAUGHT Romulox Jun 2012 #77

It's called PROVIDING A GOOD EXAMPLE. GaYellowDawg Jun 2012 #14

An example that this little adolescent monster reads about on the intertubes? cherokeeprogressive Jun 2012 #18

He is setting a good example obamanut2012 Jun 2012 #35

Based on the bear hug Mrs. Klein is giving in return... WorseBeforeBetter Jun 2012 #15

She had also said last week she didn't want to see the kids again obamanut2012 Jun 2012 #36

Thanks, I thought I had read that somewhere. WorseBeforeBetter Jun 2012 #55

Yup, and it just happened a week ago today obamanut2012 Jun 2012 #63

The family is also taking responsibility Aerows Jun 2012 #25

Maybe he is ashamed and embarrassed by how his spawn treated her? obamanut2012 Jun 2012 #33

He wants the death threats to stop, maybe? The kid can't come over because Pa knocked out a tooth? MADem Jun 2012 #43

One of the fathers, not sure if this is the one, has said he intends to take his son to sabrina 1 Jun 2012 #6

therapy is a good idea. On the video, the boys were talking about stabbing the woman Liberal_in_LA Jun 2012 #10

Good cabot Jun 2012 #21

My experience is that virtually all bullies learn it at home. Often from an abusive parent. nt Romulox Jun 2012 #23

I have found that not to be true obamanut2012 Jun 2012 #38

+1. Not in my experience either. nt riderinthestorm Jun 2012 #46

Agree. n/t lumberjack_jeff Jun 2012 #47

OK. Our experience doesn't cancel out. nt Romulox Jun 2012 #53

because you're all knowing... dionysus Jun 2012 #56

This message was self-deleted by its author Romulox Jun 2012 #59

sorry no Eksess Jun 2012 #73

Good for him. That's good parenting. n/t EFerrari Jun 2012 #8

One wonders how CNN got a pic of this. In any case, MichiganVote Jun 2012 #16

Nice but the boys should have been there too cabot Jun 2012 #19

As if this self-same father didn't teach his son to be a bully in the first place. nt Romulox Jun 2012 #22

Bullshit Aerows Jun 2012 #27

It's more likely than not. Much more rare for good parents to raise an absolute monster. nt Romulox Jun 2012 #50

You don't know that he did. Quantess Jun 2012 #28

It's more likely than not. nt Romulox Jun 2012 #51

Could be. Quantess Jun 2012 #54

Maybe he did. But if that is the case, this is a step in a better direction. n/t EFerrari Jun 2012 #39

Now that I can agree with. nt Romulox Jun 2012 #52

You have zero proof of that obamanut2012 Jun 2012 #40

thank you Doctor Frist. dionysus Jun 2012 #57

More *stunning* insight from one of DU's top contributors! nt Romulox Jun 2012 #58

Given the responses, I think dion's "insight" was spot on. He basically said the same thing.... Tarheel_Dem Jun 2012 #61

Oh nonsense. You two run in pack. Romulox Jun 2012 #75

Oooooh! Temper. Temper. What was it you were saying about "bullies"? Tarheel_Dem Jun 2012 #80

No temper at all. Just a fact. It's lame to pretend otherwise. Now, more bully defending to do! nt Romulox Jun 2012 #82

Exactly right. n/t lumberjack_jeff Jun 2012 #67

LOL at the PILE ON. You guys are real experts at defending bullies! nt Romulox Jun 2012 #76

That may be true on a macro view, but not for any individual case. uppityperson Jun 2012 #64

Stereotyping: the secret of success is to embrace the ones everyone else holds. n/t lumberjack_jeff Jun 2012 #66

Poor, poor bullies! PLEASE lets not *stereotype* them! Romulox Jun 2012 #74

You're not stereotyping *bullies*. lumberjack_jeff Jun 2012 #83

No. I'm criticizing the people who taught these "snowflakes" everything they know. Romulox Jun 2012 #84

No, they're individuals; incompletely assembled individuals at that. lumberjack_jeff Jun 2012 #85

They're children. They were taught to relate by adults. I don't know why you're so invested Romulox Jun 2012 #86

Ah. Perfect and a mind reader too! lumberjack_jeff Jun 2012 #88

"Repeated personal insults + projection"? Too Rich. Tarheel_Dem Jun 2012 #89

yip! yip! yip! nt Romulox Jun 2012 #90

I can't even imagine doing this sorta thing to her. roamer65 Jun 2012 #26

I wouldn't be alive to post Aerows Jun 2012 #30

I could not imagine behaving that way myself, but if I did, I'd expect to have my ass warmed MADem Jun 2012 #45

My family taught me to respect older people. And kids. EFerrari Jun 2012 #42

Apology ICJ65 Jun 2012 #31

I owe Mrs. Kein respect Aerows Jun 2012 #37

I don't owe anyone an apology because of how someone else treated them obamanut2012 Jun 2012 #41

Amen Aerows Jun 2012 #44

That really isn't helping 4th law of robotics Jun 2012 #70

hmm ICJ65 Jun 2012 #48

I tried to avoid the video of her crying, 6000eliot Jun 2012 #62

it's easier to watch now that we know people have contributed $630K on her behalf. Liberal_in_LA Jun 2012 #69

nice gesture but not good enough silentwarrior Jun 2012 #71

Father spending energy in wrong place Eksess Jun 2012 #72

Look at how many excuses bullies garner, even here on DU. How quick many DUers demand we "forgive" Romulox Jun 2012 #78

So what the son learns from this is if he does something horrible KurtNYC Jun 2012 #79

LOTS of investment in the idea that these children learn this behavior in a vacuum. Romulox Jun 2012 #87