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NanceGreggs

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70. Thank you for the response.
Tue Jan 24, 2017, 04:55 AM
Jan 2017

Do I detect "misery" in Melania's behaviour? No. What I detect is someone who is extremely uncomfortable with a role that she did not seek - a role in which she is expected to do, say, and act in certain ways, while the eyes of the entire world are watching.

She is no doubt fully aware of the popularity of her predecessor, which makes her all the more vulnerable to the fear that any mis-step, any mis-speak, any slight faux pas will be ridiculed as not as pitch-perfect as the woman whose act she's following.

I see Melania as I would an actress who was suddenly thrust onstage - without really knowing the play, where her marks are, or what her lines are supposed to be. Throw in the fact that the play is in English (not her first language), and that her accent sounds distinctly "foreign", when she has been cast in a role traditionally played by the all-American girl.

There is nothing wrong with noting someone's body language or demeanour - we all do that. What I find appalling is stating as FACT what she is thinking; e.g. She looks miserable because she hates her husband. She's acting that way because Trump makes her sick. She looks uncomfortable because she can't stand Trump being near her.

"It could be pure projection because I can't stand him." I think that's where a lot of this "I know what she's thinking" comes from. People are thinking about what their reaction would be in Melania's place, without giving any thought to the idea that Melania's view of her husband might be totally different than theirs.

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It's a business relationship. nt SunSeeker Jan 2017 #1
She's on a whole different level than me - LOL LeftInTX Jan 2017 #2
You could be right... Bozvotros Jan 2017 #8
All well and good Nwgirl503 Jan 2017 #28
His prenups and nondisclosure agreements are famously ironclad. nt tblue37 Jan 2017 #42
She seems very...uncomfortable. Speaking at the jmg257 Jan 2017 #3
She's a liar and a phony just like her husband. PearliePoo2 Jan 2017 #4
The Unbearable Happiness of Being the First Couple A-Schwarzenegger Jan 2017 #5
He looks awful LeftInTX Jan 2017 #10
not sure how to just post the pic for non-facebook folks A-Schwarzenegger Jan 2017 #11
he looks awful... chillfactor Jan 2017 #15
i love Merrill Markoe's comment: A-Schwarzenegger Jan 2017 #16
Dead eyes Charles Bukowski Jan 2017 #17
Or how about this pic? area51 Jan 2017 #24
i'm not seeing any pic at all A-Schwarzenegger Jan 2017 #26
I've seen happier faces at funerals. Feeling the Bern Jan 2017 #29
Compare Skidmore Jan 2017 #30
yep, there's two tuned-in folks... A-Schwarzenegger Jan 2017 #31
I caught a few seconds of their dance before I shut off the TV- she leans way, way away from him. NBachers Jan 2017 #6
That whole family has we "we are glad we have money, but are not happy" look. Hoyt Jan 2017 #7
this one? A-Schwarzenegger Jan 2017 #12
That's it! Thanks. Hoyt Jan 2017 #14
Turkey baster... Rollo Jan 2017 #9
Whatever goes on in that marriage ... NanceGreggs Jan 2017 #13
peoplewho live their lives demanding others share their morality are fair game nt msongs Jan 2017 #18
I agree amuse bouche Jan 2017 #19
Leave the entire disgusting klan alone!!!! A-Schwarzenegger Jan 2017 #22
Make me!!!!! amuse bouche Jan 2017 #34
Do not make me stop this car. A-Schwarzenegger Jan 2017 #35
Still won't work. I'm never a passenger amuse bouche Jan 2017 #37
Don't make me come up there then, or even better... A-Schwarzenegger Jan 2017 #44
Send Skittles she kicks a**. nt tblue37 Jan 2017 #61
When did Trump or Melania ... NanceGreggs Jan 2017 #21
Disagree Nance canetoad Jan 2017 #25
You are assuming that Melania is abused. NanceGreggs Jan 2017 #38
Well, I still disagree canetoad Jan 2017 #39
I quite pointedly stated ... NanceGreggs Jan 2017 #40
True True...what happens in a marriage is private...but when you are in the public eye TrekLuver Jan 2017 #46
Of course there will always be speculation. NanceGreggs Jan 2017 #52
"If Melania is unhappu with her marriage, she can walk away from it." Doreen Jan 2017 #54
You are assuming facts not in evidence. NanceGreggs Jan 2017 #57
Nance, not sure why you are taking such offense at this thread. Bozvotros Jan 2017 #59
What "upsets me" ... NanceGreggs Jan 2017 #64
OK Bozvotros Jan 2017 #67
Read your own OP. NanceGreggs Jan 2017 #68
I did. You make some good points. Bozvotros Jan 2017 #69
Thank you for the response. NanceGreggs Jan 2017 #70
A few last thoughts..... Bozvotros Jan 2017 #71
Again, thanks for the response. NanceGreggs Jan 2017 #72
It is not about her, it is about him and how he is going akbacchus_BC Jan 2017 #20
Yes, it is all about him but she still Doreen Jan 2017 #55
gold diggers don't expect to actually have to WORK Skittles Jan 2017 #23
I believe it's called "pay for play". democratisphere Jan 2017 #27
Check out their "dance" rumdude Jan 2017 #32
I'm in the minority here. I actually think they love each other. Lucinda Jan 2017 #33
I agree actually. Their first inaugural dance wasn't polished riderinthestorm Jan 2017 #36
She's very uncomfortable with public attention, it's not her culture, she doesn't know what to do betsuni Jan 2017 #56
All sorts of psychodrama could be involved, but like many young women, she could easily have tblue37 Jan 2017 #62
Verbal abuse HoBeKaT Jan 2017 #41
A picture is worth 10,000 words A-Schwarzenegger Jan 2017 #43
.. Cha Jan 2017 #45
I have a co worker who does this...she doesn't wait for people...walks ahead of them. TrekLuver Jan 2017 #48
It's not very caring of the other person especially in this kind of situation.. Cha Jan 2017 #49
No not at all...and I have many examples of this behavior from her. I'm sure this is nothing TrekLuver Jan 2017 #51
Exactly.. common courtesy. Cha Jan 2017 #53
Who the hell knows what the hell is really going on in that "relationship"...I for one am not TrekLuver Jan 2017 #47
She hates him. erinlough Jan 2017 #50
Well, I feel for her... Blue_Roses Jan 2017 #58
Me too loyalsister Jan 2017 #60
The happiest she looked that evening, was when she was dancing with that young soldier Lady_Chat Jan 2017 #63
Don't care LynnTTT Jan 2017 #65
She's trapped. I feel very sad for her. nt GliderGuider Jan 2017 #66
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