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78. IMO it was a patronizing gesture made more to make him feel good about himself...

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Wed Jan 25, 2017, 06:39 PM

Jan 2017

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Sub-concious white guilt, you know. But I'm happy for the waitress.

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A white Trump voter explains why he was inspired to leave a black waitress a $450 tip [View all] Stellar Jan 2017 OP

call me a cynic oldtime dfl_er Jan 2017 #1

Me too HipChick Jan 2017 #7

My thoughts as well. NCTraveler Jan 2017 #8

I'm glad I discarded cynicism for its own sake some years back... LanternWaste Jan 2017 #21

Oh my gosh. cwydro Jan 2017 #154

He wanted to make her feel small. Typical really. Rex Jan 2017 #24

With a tip like that he can make feel small any day of the week CajunBlazer Jan 2017 #118

lulz Rex Jan 2017 #156

I thought it was beautiful yeoman6987 Jan 2017 #34

Well of course you did yeoman6987. Kingofalldems Jan 2017 #44

That is a ridiculous statement CajunBlazer Jan 2017 #116

If we can't recognize when someone is trying, from a Alice11111 Jan 2017 #126

Seconded shadowrider Jan 2017 #94

Well said! CajunBlazer Jan 2017 #117

I've done the same, but did it without the lecture. Amimnoch Jan 2017 #142

If you smell flowers, do you look for a coffin? Glassunion Jan 2017 #41

As a Texan, it sounds like one of the "good ole" boys to me. hamsterjill Jan 2017 #47

IMO it was a patronizing gesture made more to make him feel good about himself... brush Jan 2017 #78

Hell, he ought to feel good about himself CajunBlazer Jan 2017 #119

Yep, they sure do, even here on DU they reveal themselves. brush Jan 2017 #121

Yeah that Trump supporter is a really nice guy. Rex Jan 2017 #157

That's how I see it. I'm glad she got a good tip, but the note is creepy. yardwork Jan 2017 #147

I totally agree with you MrScorpio Jan 2017 #74

Don't know I'd say "creep"... Bradical79 Jan 2017 #80

yes oldtime dfl_er Jan 2017 #82

You are worse than an cynic. former9thward Jan 2017 #114

I don't see white privilege, nor do I sense "lecturey"... Raster Jan 2017 #152

Wow leftynyc Jan 2017 #2

I am left without hope get the red out Jan 2017 #63

You are an apple and I'm an orange but in the end we're both fruits alllove Jan 2017 #3

I would wait for the credit card to clear! angstlessk Jan 2017 #4

lol alllove Jan 2017 #9

I take this bdamomma Jan 2017 #5

Some things should be taken at face value. MadCrow Jan 2017 #12

At face value it's paternalistic, misogyinistic bullshit with racist overtones. Maru Kitteh Jan 2017 #17

It really is like sayng "you're one of the good ones." JCanete Jan 2017 #25

He's probably acting out of guilt MountCleaners Jan 2017 #28

BINGO. Write a check & convince himself he's "done something" instead of doing the hard work Maru Kitteh Jan 2017 #36

Bullshit!!! CajunBlazer Jan 2017 #120

+ 100 .. N/t obnoxiousdrunk Jan 2017 #143

I do too since he could have left her a quarter and treated her like shit nini Jan 2017 #95

"Thanks for knowing your place and doing your job!" RedWedge Jan 2017 #6

THIS oldtime dfl_er Jan 2017 #10

+1 n/t blue cat Jan 2017 #79

exactly JI7 Jan 2017 #129

'different cultures'? wtf spanone Jan 2017 #11

I'm white and was born and raised in a blue state in New England alllove Jan 2017 #13

Oh give it up already. Welcome to DU enjoy your stay. Maru Kitteh Jan 2017 #15

Thank you alllove Jan 2017 #20

A lot of Rex Jan 2017 #91

bullshit. we're all americans.....ever heard that before? spanone Jan 2017 #16

I don't identify with all Americans alllove Jan 2017 #18

So you identify with what you consider center-right or right? Maru Kitteh Jan 2017 #32

Yep. But but but...he gave her a lot of money! Rex Jan 2017 #23

Um. FUCK HIM. You don't get to write a check and take away my gender. You don't Maru Kitteh Jan 2017 #14

Exactly! JenniferJuniper Jan 2017 #26

+1 lunamagica Jan 2017 #125

Are you saying she should give it back? Would you in her position? nt kelly1mm Jan 2017 #42

The onus is upon his action. Like hell will you find me judging her. That's his game. Maru Kitteh Jan 2017 #46

Great so she gets to kepp the money. nt kelly1mm Jan 2017 #69

This. Nt Quayblue Jan 2017 #77

The responses here are ridiculous. It was a nice gesture and a nice message. Oneironaut Jan 2017 #19

Says the white guy. The crowd at FOXnewz sure seemed to think it was great. Maru Kitteh Jan 2017 #30

How did he deny her culture and gender? Oneironaut Jan 2017 #50

I just told you. It's up to you to read for comprehension. Maru Kitteh Jan 2017 #58

And where did you give any evidence? Oneironaut Jan 2017 #62

Except he didn't tell her she needed to smile more mythology Jan 2017 #75

this nt calendargirl Jan 2017 #100

Post removed Post removed Jan 2017 #144

I agree. He gets to brag about voting for Trump but now he's a hero. yardwork Jan 2017 #148

"Ridiculous"? JenniferJuniper Jan 2017 #35

How was it not supportive? Oneironaut Jan 2017 #51

No he wasn't. JenniferJuniper Jan 2017 #53

Was the waitress offended? Oneironaut Jan 2017 #54

I'm sure she was thrilled with the money. JenniferJuniper Jan 2017 #61

So, you've decided to jump in and be offended for her? Oneironaut Jan 2017 #65

If she was thrilled with the money Dorian Gray Jan 2017 #145

Gosh. I would be happy to get notes like this all day. fescuerescue Jan 2017 #66

He's a racist misogynist because of his Trump vote Bradical79 Jan 2017 #81

That's engaging in binary thinking. Oneironaut Jan 2017 #83

They were not "duped" Bradical79 Jan 2017 #86

I disagree. I think most wanted to be part of a movement, Oneironaut Jan 2017 #87

He used their racism to distract from other issues Bradical79 Jan 2017 #88

You are also correct. For some, it was about the "brown boogieman." Oneironaut Jan 2017 #89

Thinking like this will lead to another disaster in upcoming elections... Baconator Jan 2017 #92

Nonsense -nt Bradical79 Jan 2017 #96

BULL FUCKIN SHIT !!! Comey, Voter suppression and Russia you can got with non reality I'd rather uponit7771 Jan 2017 #105

+1 uponit7771 Jan 2017 #104

They don't get the benefit of the doubt, they took that away with their votes. FUCK THAT !! I don't uponit7771 Jan 2017 #101

+1. Some people need to pintobean Jan 2017 #84

NO ONE should be agreeing with overt bigotry or give people who do agree with the benefit of doubt uponit7771 Jan 2017 #106

:yawn: pintobean Jan 2017 #130

Yeap, yawn to bigotry... figured we'd have some people who aren't bothered by it post their true... uponit7771 Jan 2017 #131

My true feelings? pintobean Jan 2017 #135

You yawned to a post about bigotry, this was not a post about disagreement... good try though uponit7771 Jan 2017 #137

:yawn: pintobean Jan 2017 #139

Unfortunately I and many others can't afford to yawn at bigotry, I'll fight it to my last breath uponit7771 Jan 2017 #140

If he was really nice he would've given the money without the note Merlot Jan 2017 #113

Oh the poor White Texas Man's Burden! Rex Jan 2017 #22

Small scale imperialism samir.g Jan 2017 #27

Right on. The asshole should have kept his filthy lucre to himself. WillowTree Jan 2017 #57

Very nice. braddy Jan 2017 #29

I'm glad he wants to be inclusive. Here's a picture of his dental staff. Buckeye_Democrat Jan 2017 #31

Even his name is White...... Tanuki Jan 2017 #33

That pic will probably get him more followers here on DU. Rex Jan 2017 #90

LOL. They do have great smiles. n/t Tatiana Jan 2017 #98

Trump Guilt erpowers Jan 2017 #37

+1, I know people with it written on their faces !!! uponit7771 Jan 2017 #103

I know a few people who voted for Trump MountCleaners Jan 2017 #38

+1, I do too and the guilt is written on their faces !!! uponit7771 Jan 2017 #107

The "we may come from different cultures" thing MountCleaners Jan 2017 #39

I don't get it... Baconator Jan 2017 #72

Judas got 30 pieces of silver maxrandb Jan 2017 #40

Amen uponit7771 Jan 2017 #109

Great post! n/t VespertineIconoclast Jan 2017 #128

The replies and attitudes here sometimes.. SQUEE Jan 2017 #43

Forget it, Jake. It's General Discussion. Dr. Strange Jan 2017 #97

lol n/t orleans Jan 2017 #123

My wife and I go out to eat at least once a week madokie Jan 2017 #45

Wow. califootman Jan 2017 #48

I'm sure he's not reading this MountCleaners Jan 2017 #49

I'm sure he's not reading this, too. califootman Jan 2017 #52

We're all entitled to our own opinions True Dough Jan 2017 #55

But but but... calendargirl Jan 2017 #99

Don't take this personally, but... True Dough Jan 2017 #111

Yes, I think they both enjoyed each others company and he showed it the best way he could from his stevenleser Jan 2017 #122

The waitress gets to decide VoicesAcrossAmerica Jan 2017 #56

Yes. Exactly what I was going to post. Inkfreak Jan 2017 #150

Come together, NO...No one got paid to March Against Trump.... Tikki Jan 2017 #59

+1 uponit7771 Jan 2017 #138

The gesture reeks of guilt and paternalism Lanius Jan 2017 #60

+1 uponit7771 Jan 2017 #136

Nice tip, but spare us the self-righteous sermon . . . hatrack Jan 2017 #64

I don't think it was intended for mass publication. fescuerescue Jan 2017 #67

Then how did it end up in the Post? hatrack Jan 2017 #68

Looks like either the waitress or the restaurant published it fescuerescue Jan 2017 #70

Matthew 6:5-6 hatrack Jan 2017 #71

I am sure that she liked the tip HoneyBadger Jan 2017 #73

Here is a big tip...and I will match it with a donation to Planned Parenthood. Tikki Jan 2017 #85

And that still wouldn't be good enough. calendargirl Jan 2017 #102

Honestly, I agree with everything you wrote. Tikki Jan 2017 #110

I thought it came off as condescending as hell. I'm glad she got the dough, but, ugh. catbyte Jan 2017 #76

Come from different cultures??? Is she American? Or is he denying that because, you know? Squinch Jan 2017 #93

There are different cultures within this country MichMary Jan 2017 #153

It's a kind gesture. romanic Jan 2017 #108

I don't accept enabling of bigotry of any kind no matter the gestures behind it. uponit7771 Jan 2017 #134

This looks like guilt money. Covering for the racist predator and chief. Lint Head Jan 2017 #112

it's not going to make your vote for an openly bigoted piece of shit go away JI7 Jan 2017 #115

+1 uponit7771 Jan 2017 #133

So let me get this straight.... CajunBlazer Jan 2017 #124

the Trump supporter was trying to cover or excuse his support for the bigoted piece of shit JI7 Jan 2017 #127

The progressive enables bigotry?!?! REALLY?! So soon DU "forgets" MiniPoots bigoted campaign !!! uponit7771 Jan 2017 #132

"We just screwed you, so here's a little gesture.. Amimnoch Jan 2017 #141

Good point about the positive reinforcement training. yardwork Jan 2017 #149

Yeap.. the guilt is evident uponit7771 Jan 2017 #155

If you want to be nice MountCleaners Jan 2017 #146

#fakenews. stonecutter357 Jan 2017 #151