my mother is dying

[TygrBright]

71. I'm sorry... it sounds like it hurts a lot.

Sometimes all a parent can do for their children is be a learning experience.

Their own pain keeps them imprisoned behind the walls that separate them from their children.

She told you "she loved me, but didn't like me" may have been honest, but it doesn't feel loving.

However many hours or days you have left, you can still have a loving relationship with her, even if it's only one-way.

Forgiveness doesn't have to be a two-way street.

With so many painful memories, you still have a little time to make some different ones. They may hurt like hell in the short term, but ultimately, memories of trying to love, trying to accept even a nasty, rageful, pain-filled mother for what she is, and what she might have wished she could be, will be a source of strength.

The things you've learned about how not to do it can help you now, too.

You and your Mom will be in my heart.

lovingly,
Bright