my mother is dying

[kerry-is-my-prez]

84. Sort of have the same situation. I basically hated my mother for most of my life. I decided that for

my own mental health and peace of mind I had to "let it go," and be a bigger person. I don't know if it was so much that I "forgave" her really. Most importantly, it was a huge positive step for ME. I realize that my mother had "problems." She now has dementia and my brother and I are her caregivers. I try to do the "right thing." She is really a different person now. I'm glad I had the chance to correct things while she was still alive. You cannot unwind the clock once someone is dead. Do what you need to do for yourself in order to live the rest of your life in peace and with a clear conscience.

I'm sorry for your situation, by the way. No matter what the circumstances, it is painful to lose your mother. In my own situation, honestly, I believe it will be a relief for both her and for my brother and I once she is gone. No-one can live a good quality of life with dementia.

I wish you peace.....