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In reply to the discussion: my mother is dying [View all]
lovemydogs
(575 posts)91. My mother died 2 years ago
Its really hard to deal with. It also sounds like she has Alzhiemers.
Don't regret what could have been or what you wished it could be like.
Instead make a video filled with the music she loved and pictures of good times. Remember the happy things.
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It sucks when the feelings are complicated like that. Godspeed and good vibes. nt
LaydeeBug
May 2017
#17
It's not at all the same, but there is a lot of love here for you...
FailureToCommunicate
May 2017
#27
Very sad, but consider YOU broke the cycle and have good relationships with kids and grandkids
karynnj
May 2017
#39
I had a similar relationship with my mother, but in the end, I was the only one she recognized
Siwsan
May 2017
#53
I'm hard pressed to know what's harder, losing a good parent or a lousy parent.
Still Blue in PDX
May 2017
#59
Many of us held out hope for a very long time that the relationship with a lousy parent
mnhtnbb
May 2017
#68
I truly understand your reluctance considering that you weren't the only one she hurt - very noble
diva77
May 2017
#86
I'm sorry, kpete. Just remember, no matter how nice a family looks, every one has their problems.
TheBlackAdder
May 2017
#65
The best we can do on our mothers' behalf is to be better than they were at their best.
ancianita
May 2017
#72
Sort of have the same situation. I basically hated my mother for most of my life. I decided that for
kerry-is-my-prez
May 2017
#84
I'm sorry you had to go through this kp. It looks like you are sending a lot of love and harmony
Maraya1969
May 2017
#92