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In reply to the discussion: Why isn't Jared Kushner offended by Trump's anti-semitism? [View all]bettyellen
(47,209 posts)Familial pressure- they did feel the kids would never be Jewish if they mother didn't convert first. And this was important for culture as well as religious reasons. My industry had a high percentage of observant Jews so if always heard stories about people not being able to date outside their faith, or talking about having to convert for the family- often a inheritence depended on it. The older generations didn't want Judaism to disappear.
There was generally less pressure on men, as long as the kids would be raised in the Jewish faith. But one of my friend's grandparents offer to buy an expensive apartment for the couple if her husband converted, so he did. Their wedding had some of the old traditions (they went in a closet together for five minutes after the wedding, had some sort of scroll contracts to sign) a klezmer band and Alan Dershowitz came!
I think it's a bit more about cultural preservation than anything, although the marriage contract itself was a bit more pro- woman than I imagined. Fairly common in NYC area, anyway. It's a noted phenomenon that the converted becomes more enthusiastic about it that the Jew born that way. But in my friend's case they were both agnostic, so you never know.