"Why didn't she say something?"

[Honeycombe8]

14. It's the culture of doing what you do in your post: focusing on the female doing something wrong.

Instead of on the male, who really has done something wrong.

You: Well, why would she even mention it, since a dropout hitting on her is normal? (It's not.) But the point is not that she is confusing normal behavior with rape. It's that it's a precursor to what will be said if HIS behavior is more egregious. At what point would you agree? If she says she was raped, you will ask "Did you report it?" You may also ask, "What evidence is there of it?" You may also ask, "Why were you hanging around a drunk guy?" You may also ask, "How were you dressed?" or "Did you come on to him, or behave in a way that he thought you were coming on to him?"

Focus is repeatedly on HER behavior and incorrect viewpoint, since it is ASSUMED that the guy is in the right, up until there's a conviction of rape. Even then, some men will continue with their support of the male.

I supposed it's understandable. Men can place themselves in that man's position, and see themselves as being railroaded. They identify with the perp and see the perp as "normal."

The point is..it's almost pointless to report offenses, because of the attitude. The female is blamed or said to be lying. I understand why they wouldn't report it. But I don't understand reporting it years later. There's really no point in that, unless it's to support a current accuser, to point out that it's an old M.O. the perp has been using for a long time (like the Bill Cosby situation).