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WhiskeyGrinder

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44. "You are not relating an actual event."

Wed Oct 11, 2017, 09:00 PM

Oct 2017

I'm not?

This is in no way to say these things do not happen and sometimes just like this, but you are relating them in "hypothetical" way.

It's unclear to me why hypothetical/not hypothetical makes the difference.

And I am not uncomfortable at all. I am pointing out that any event where "rape culture" is being perpetrated is going to involve a lot more than what was posted, and again, that making any one of these things some broad statement about "rape culture" diminishes real concerns about such.

So if I had put more details in to show you how someone like you, whose wife is a sexual abuse counselor, could excuse himself from the example, you'd feel better about me throwing around the words "rape culture"?

It is not hard to understand, really. My wife understands it, and she is a Sexual Abuse Counselor.

Maybe she could get it on here and explain it to me.

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"Why didn't she say something?" [View all] WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 OP

real bad Darlene Johnston Oct 2017 #1

I Don't know how to classify this, your first post, Darlene Johnston Hekate Oct 2017 #3

Seriously... (nt) ehrnst Oct 2017 #9

Thank you! nature-lover Oct 2017 #2

i've heard the same bullshit about Obama spanone Oct 2017 #4

In what context? WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #5

K & R +100 Stonepounder Oct 2017 #6

Story of my life LittleGirl Oct 2017 #7

Don't forget the girlie posters in the auto repair shop. lindysalsagal Oct 2017 #8

Yea, that's gross and also very unprofessional. Bluepinky Oct 2017 #62

Sorry.... concreteblue Oct 2017 #10

Sorry I wasn't clearer. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #11

It's the culture of doing what you do in your post: focusing on the female doing something wrong. Honeycombe8 Oct 2017 #14

How nice of you to read my mind. concreteblue Oct 2017 #15

This is fascinating. Mariana Oct 2017 #16

"Why are you so angry about the OP and the poster's comments to you?" concreteblue Oct 2017 #29

Most people shout and swear when they're angry Mariana Oct 2017 #32

No. concreteblue Oct 2017 #35

I'm curious what you thought about my response to your post. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #18

Yes concreteblue Oct 2017 #28

What kind of "unfounded assumptions" did I make, other than my inartful wording in the one instance? WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #31

"unfounded assumptions" may be the wrong words here concreteblue Oct 2017 #36

Your response makes it sound like that the hypotheticals I've listed -- which are hardly WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #41

HYPOTHETICALS IN THE SENSE THAT concreteblue Oct 2017 #43

"You are not relating an actual event." WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #44

She could. concreteblue Oct 2017 #47

I guess it's up to you, then. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #48

I don't think I can make myself any clearer. concreteblue Oct 2017 #49

If this is your explanation: WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #52

If you don't concreteblue Oct 2017 #53

Perhaps you didn't understand my last post. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #56

I am starting to think you don't understand your last post concreteblue Oct 2017 #57

Not at all. You're making yourself very clear. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #58

Reading your words, not your mind. nt Honeycombe8 Oct 2017 #26

" you will ask "Did you report it?"" concreteblue Oct 2017 #27

Also, concreteblue Oct 2017 #37

Agreed. Theres a tendency these days to label all kinds of behavior bluepen Oct 2017 #17

My wording in that one particular example was inexact and didn't correctly describe the scenario WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #19

I understood what you meant. Mariana Oct 2017 #20

Some people will always look for loopholes, because it's easier than addressing the real problem. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #21

Yep Pacifist Patriot Oct 2017 #23

It absolutely does not water down the word. Pacifist Patriot Oct 2017 #33

really mercuryblues Oct 2017 #34

So depressing! Pacifist Patriot Oct 2017 #40

Nailed it. concreteblue Oct 2017 #46

Yep, and I applaud your patient effort. bluepen Oct 2017 #50

You seem unfathomably hysterical. LanternWaste Oct 2017 #25

THIS. THIS is how we have women whose voices have been stifled! Lyricalinklines Oct 2017 #12

"How were you dressed?" "You shouldn't have been there in the 1st place." Honeycombe8 Oct 2017 #13

NAILED IT niyad Oct 2017 #22

Story of a lot of our lives. And those objecting to these examples... Pacifist Patriot Oct 2017 #24

Well said. suffragette Oct 2017 #30

Being hit on at a college party is not "Rape Culture". Period. concreteblue Oct 2017 #38

You are completely missing the point. Pacifist Patriot Oct 2017 #39

"If you don't grasp that dismissing women's instincts about their well-being is symptomatic of rape WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #42

I understand it perfectly. concreteblue Oct 2017 #45

Thanks for demonstrating my point beautifully. Much appreciated! Pacifist Patriot Oct 2017 #63

it's not the hitting-on that is the problem Kali Oct 2017 #54

That is understood. concreteblue Oct 2017 #55

... Kali Oct 2017 #60

Touche' concreteblue Oct 2017 #61

There is intentional misunderstanding going in here. Mariana Oct 2017 #59

It was originally inartfully worded. concreteblue Oct 2017 #64

You dug up a three week old thread to say that? Mariana Oct 2017 #65

Had not logged in in three weeks. concreteblue Oct 2017 #66

Putting men's feelings above women's safety. mountain grammy Oct 2017 #51