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(29,853 posts) Tue Nov 26, 2013, 04:13 AM Nov 2013

Family Says They Did Tip Gay Server, Didn't Leave Note [View all]

Source: NBC New York

After a gay server at a New Jersey restaurant said a customer denied her a tip and wrote her a hateful note on the receipt, a local family contacted NBC 4 New York and said their receipt shows they paid a tip and didn't write any such note.

Dayna Morales, a former Marine and a server at Gallop Asian Bistro in Bridgewater, posted a photo on Facebook earlier this month, showing the bill with a line through the space for a tip. The photo of the receipt showed someone had written, "I'm sorry but I cannot tip because I do not agree with your lifestyle."

Morales indicated in her Facebook post, and in subsequent media interviews -- including with NBC 4 New York -- that the customer wrote that line.

But a family contacted NBC 4 New York claiming their receipt from the restaurant shows they did leave a tip, and provided what they said was a credit card statement as proof.

Read more: http://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/local/Gay-Server-Tip-Lifestyle-Receipt-Discrepancy-233040811.html

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Family Says They Did Tip Gay Server, Didn't Leave Note [View all] Freddie Stubbs Nov 2013 OP

That happened here a couple times:-pseudo-hate-crime-victimology ErikJ Nov 2013 #1

There is the case of Charlie Rogers last year FrodosPet Nov 2013 #10

This is really too bad question everything Nov 2013 #80

The waitress is probably a victim in all this, too. JimDandy Nov 2013 #116

Happened at my old high school XemaSab Nov 2013 #53

This happens when people see profit from it ProudToBeBlueInRhody Nov 2013 #2

It's damaging to the cases where it is true. Ash_F Nov 2013 #3

I suspect the right wing will waste little time in claiming all such stories are bull. ProudToBeBlueInRhody Nov 2013 #5

Exactly. Don't give them ammunition. /nt Ash_F Nov 2013 #6

It's simple check the handwriting FranMonet Nov 2013 #4

Easier - check the total of her receipt, and check the total charged on the credit card DeschutesRiver Nov 2013 #58

It's all in the news report at the link. Jesus Malverde Nov 2013 #66

Had trouble getting link to open but I've read it now. nt DeschutesRiver Nov 2013 #95

I prefer to leave my tips on the table in cash. Lasher Nov 2013 #75

I don't ever do that. MicaelS Nov 2013 #89

Yes, in your specific example, which is not the case here from what I read. DeschutesRiver Nov 2013 #90

Yes, that is true. Lasher Nov 2013 #96

Yeah, the way this has gone down does suggest that anything might be possible.. DeschutesRiver Nov 2013 #106

...the restaurant needs to finish its audit and let the public know if they are at all responsible. MADem Nov 2013 #76

I think you have the answer. MicaelS Nov 2013 #92

Agree. At this point, what you mention is also a possibility. nt DeschutesRiver Nov 2013 #93

They have provided a credit card statement. MicaelS Nov 2013 #88

Thanks, hadn't seen the credit card statement. nt DeschutesRiver Nov 2013 #98

Oddly, though, the customer's credit card statement should have shown TWO transactions JimDandy Nov 2013 #117

No, it shouldn't. LisaL Nov 2013 #126

What? No, I eat out all the time... MicaelS Nov 2013 #129

I've never seen two transactions for a restaurant, only the one with the tip included. n/t tammywammy Nov 2013 #130

Depends on the payment vendor...some make the tip a separate transaction. hexola Nov 2013 #145

will be interesting to see if the restaurant can verify whether the bank statement is accurate tomm2thumbs Nov 2013 #7

It's probable these people were picked because they weren't very friendly in the first place nt ProudToBeBlueInRhody Nov 2013 #8

They thought her name was Dan instead of Dayna. LisaL Nov 2013 #33

They say that the person who seated them told them their server would be DAN. MADem Nov 2013 #78

Good point...Is there in fact a server named "Dan" that works here? hexola Nov 2013 #82

Or they misunderstood the seater OrwellwasRight Nov 2013 #87

From the TV report, it seems as if they are calling the server Day - na, not Dan- ah... MADem Nov 2013 #99

I can't say what happened, I'm just saying OrwellwasRight Nov 2013 #104

I get what you're saying, it is just that when I mishear, I might hear Fran or Stan or MADem Nov 2013 #107

The man on the Grassy Knoll did this! randome Nov 2013 #85

I agree, the problem is once the story broke there was outrage over it davidpdx Nov 2013 #9

It could be they are both telling the truth JimDandy Nov 2013 #118

Yeah, I suppose that is possible davidpdx Nov 2013 #131

Not everybody is current on the language to use customerserviceguy Nov 2013 #18

"Tolerate" means putting up with something (or someone) you don't like, right? FrodosPet Nov 2013 #111

No, not always. The Museum of Tolerance isn't about putting up with people. MADem Nov 2013 #141

Thank you customerserviceguy Nov 2013 #144

At times like these, I defer to the dictionary FrodosPet Nov 2013 #149

Even your dictionary definition isn't about "like," though... MADem Nov 2013 #153

People who discriminate rarely leave notes n/t DaveJ Nov 2013 #11

Or if they leave rude notes, they sure as hell shouldn't pay by CREDIT CARD. MADem Nov 2013 #13

Racists and Ignorant people generally are not very smart. /nt Drale Nov 2013 #52

well is these people are ignorant racists, they evidently had the smarts cali Nov 2013 #73

I don't think you can forge a bank statement davidpdx Nov 2013 #132

Twill be interesting to see how this turns out... ReRe Nov 2013 #12

Not likely tho. Zero recs on a review of the case. Just comments so far. Festivito Nov 2013 #16

OH, the poor, persecuted, red-meat slurping heteros in the comments section! HughBeaumont Nov 2013 #14

WTF does that mean? LisaL Nov 2013 #20

Makes sense. penultimate Nov 2013 #108

Exactly. jessie04 Nov 2013 #109

If they did it or not, this post proves one thing- maced666 Nov 2013 #159

if true then maybe a lawsuit or prosecution should be in order Niceguy1 Nov 2013 #15

It appears Dayna is in a world of trouble. jessie04 Nov 2013 #17

It was on the local news here last night. Lucky Luciano Nov 2013 #19

Looking at the handwriting the handwriting looks the same though... Xyzse Nov 2013 #21

What handwriting? LisaL Nov 2013 #22

Must be my eyesight. Xyzse Nov 2013 #23

It happens a lot. The customer takes the origional, signs the wrong copy, figures on the copy and... marble falls Nov 2013 #24

They say they paid her a tip. LisaL Nov 2013 #25

It is possible they realized they had the wrong copy and called the restaurant CBGLuthier Nov 2013 #26

No, it's not possible since restaraunt doesn't have a record of this happening. LisaL Nov 2013 #27

Then the merchant copy in that photo has been doctored. CBGLuthier Nov 2013 #29

I don't think anybody is arguing that both sets of fact can be true. LisaL Nov 2013 #30

OK CBGLuthier Nov 2013 #32

If by "doctored" - you mean somone put a line through the tip and wrote a note hexola Nov 2013 #34

Most good restaurants will automatically add the gratuity for parties of 8 or more... hexola Nov 2013 #31

If they add gratuity, it should be on the receipt. LisaL Nov 2013 #43

So - safe to assume this was a small party...no auto gratuity in play...nt hexola Nov 2013 #47

It was four people. LisaL Nov 2013 #128

Last time I was out (in a baaaaah in downtown Boston), I got THREE copies of my bill. MADem Nov 2013 #81

What's weird though is the signed receipt without a tip written in. whopis01 Nov 2013 #36

Per the article, restaurant didn't produce the original copy of the receipt (to the press). LisaL Nov 2013 #39

See, you may have something there. Xyzse Nov 2013 #40

If restaurant automatically charges a tip, I presume that should be on the receipt. LisaL Nov 2013 #42

Yeah... Xyzse Nov 2013 #44

How do we know if it was or wasn't? LisaL Nov 2013 #45

That's why I placed it in a question mark. Xyzse Nov 2013 #46

Unless I see the original from the restaurant (which they claim they have), but refused to show LisaL Nov 2013 #49

Agreed on waiting to see the original receipt Xyzse Nov 2013 #50

three receipts are sometimes produced B2G Nov 2013 #48

Yes - often, the first receipt (bill) has the suggested tips at the bottom. hexola Nov 2013 #56

If they left the merchant copy blank B2G Nov 2013 #60

The tip might have been written on the first bill...which was left with the merchant copy. hexola Nov 2013 #62

Remember - they have already run your card by the time you are presented with these receipts. hexola Nov 2013 #63

Exactly. The $93.55 clearly shows as already run on these two receipts. JimDandy Nov 2013 #119

The initial "transaction".. sendero Nov 2013 #121

Because it LOOKS like a transaction record. n/t JimDandy Nov 2013 #122

Haven't you ever been to a restaurant? LisaL Nov 2013 #127

As a person who has used credit cards.. sendero Nov 2013 #143

+1,000 - I mentioned this upthread. I think the third one is if you have to file for business MADem Nov 2013 #83

Exactly B2G Nov 2013 #97

I'd even go as far as making sure the "book" with the receipt on is handed to someone davidpdx Nov 2013 #133

duplicate/reprint jakesdad Nov 2013 #61

When/where did she find this note? hexola Nov 2013 #64

It was the reporter's job to ask these questions. JimDandy Nov 2013 #120

That does seem most likely whopis01 Nov 2013 #110

To me, the '5' look like they were written by different people. Captain Stern Nov 2013 #59

I called shenanigans on this one when it happened. AngryAmish Nov 2013 #28

If anybody actually takes the time to watch the video at the link snooper2 Nov 2013 #35

Yep - The Managers are keeping her tips...they wrote the note... hexola Nov 2013 #37

I have no clue as to what you are talking about. LisaL Nov 2013 #38

In my pub, sometimes the hostess (not waitress) will pick up the receipts. hexola Nov 2013 #41

Years ago--well, decades ago--when I was young, before computers and cable TV, MADem Nov 2013 #91

Wow, that is just crap davidpdx Nov 2013 #134

They were pretty shifty when interviewed. I like this angle... Jesus Malverde Nov 2013 #77

This message was self-deleted by its author Jesus Malverde Nov 2013 #84

the "how you live your life..." part indicates someone with personal knowledge... hexola Nov 2013 #86

I noticed that too. Jesus Malverde Nov 2013 #101

That is the most likely scenario. JimDandy Nov 2013 #114

If this is true it's a double scam davidpdx Nov 2013 #135

They never do two transactions--they bill you for your food, by preparing the slip, MADem Nov 2013 #142

If you study your online banking ledger...you will see there are 2 "transactions" hexola Nov 2013 #146

Never have I seen this, and I have ordered out a lot down the years and paid with a card. MADem Nov 2013 #148

The managers sound like they have an accent of some sort... hexola Nov 2013 #55

Yes, restaurant sells chinese food so presumably the manager is Chinese. LisaL Nov 2013 #125

My first impression is not too kind for the server. randome Nov 2013 #51

Jeeze - I think she seems totally honest in the video... hexola Nov 2013 #54

I can't watch the video at work so I can't say I have all the evidence available. randome Nov 2013 #57

But the customer signed the $93.55 amount receipt warrior1 Nov 2013 #65

whoever wrote the note signed that copy of the merchant receipt geek_sabre Nov 2013 #71

Customer seemed to remember the amount of the tip... hexola Nov 2013 #72

The more I think about it I agree 3 is a possiblity davidpdx Nov 2013 #136

how is that clear? cali Nov 2013 #74

this server caused a lot of damage to this business Sunlei Nov 2013 #67

So why are the business owners blaming the customers...? hexola Nov 2013 #68

some business owners do and say stupid things. Now the person can sue the business instead of serve Sunlei Nov 2013 #70

Shame on her if she lied. hrmjustin Nov 2013 #69

I really hope she is innocent in all this... Hosnon Nov 2013 #79

I never write on my customer copy. abelenkpe Nov 2013 #94

I ALWAYS write the tip part on my customer copy - the tip part wont show up in your bank charge... hexola Nov 2013 #100

So why does the $111.55 show up in ONE transaction on the customer's credit card statement? JimDandy Nov 2013 #112

Haven't you gone to a restaurant? It always shows as one transaction. LisaL Nov 2013 #124

They just put a hold on the card. Mojo Electro Nov 2013 #152

I might not always write in the tip, but I'll put the total so I know what to expect on a statement. MADem Nov 2013 #102

The original Facebook post Jesus Malverde Nov 2013 #103

WOW! It is obviously a different handwriting from signature to slur FrodosPet Nov 2013 #139

Reading on Have a Gay Day Facebook page SaltyBro Nov 2013 #105

Link please? davidpdx Nov 2013 #137

Here. LisaL Nov 2013 #150

Might be a case of theft from the server by someone at the restaurant nt kristopher Nov 2013 #113

Why do I get the feeling that..... AverageJoe90 Nov 2013 #115

Yea, lets trust your feeling for no apparent reason. LisaL Nov 2013 #123

In the video - the customers said they didn't vote for Christie... hexola Nov 2013 #147

No, let's be skeptical for good reason, until we can positively solve this mystery. AverageJoe90 Nov 2013 #157

After reading through this and seeing the updated story I'm still conflicted davidpdx Nov 2013 #138

Did the waitress have a Politicalboi Nov 2013 #140

It looks like this woman has problems. bitchkitty Nov 2013 #151

Oh dear, she does seem to be a bit of a fabulist.. MADem Nov 2013 #154

Her actions bitchkitty Nov 2013 #155

Yes. And there is something deeply wrong going on, there. MADem Nov 2013 #156

OTOH, it shows that gays are no different from the rest of us. randome Nov 2013 #158

Update bitchkitty Dec 2013 #160

Another update Dr. Strange Dec 2013 #161