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proverbialwisdom

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16. GoTeamKate: "Stop Making the Conversation Controversial"
Tue Apr 29, 2014, 10:28 PM
Apr 2014
http://www.goteamkate.com/1/post/2013/06/stop-making-the-conversation-controversial.html

Stop Making the Conversation Controversial
06/20/2013


We need autism to be a part of the collective conscience. We need people dialoging all the time about autism. Those of us directly involved do that anyway. We need the others; the elusive and rare untouched among us to start talking. And you know what? When we fight within the community and get hung up on the semantics of it all; we scare them away.

I don't wish to diminish a person's right to be called 'autistic' or a 'person with autism' or a "free lovin' hippie" for that matter. You can choose your moniker in my view and you can relax when someone else chooses theirs. People can be afraid to talk about autism because they are afraid to offend someone. For the sake of the conversation could you allow these differences to live together for now? The divide within the community works against us. This isn't news, right?

I understand the power of language. I understand that words and phrases change meaning. I also understand that when you make the conversation controversial people will decide to stay out of it. They don't feel prepared to talk about it. They've heard or seen someone crucified for forgetting to use person-first language or they're timid to enter the conversation.

Now, I am the first one to call out someone for saying something rude or insensitive (on this blog anyway, because I am too chicken to do that in person) but I feel that we are placing this topic so far out of of reach of the average person when we assign strict and ridged rules to the discussion.

If someone is being kind when they approach the topic then they are doing it right in my book.

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Dear 'Daddy' in Seat 16C
Mon Jan 13, 2014, 02:27 PM
I have mild asperger's and am extremely bipolar. You gotta hear the shit I've been told. Nanjing to Seoul Apr 2014 #1
Everybody needs a hug. Helen Borg Apr 2014 #2
A lot of autistic people don't like to be touched. At all. Eom Blanks Apr 2014 #3
There is a lot of variability... Helen Borg Apr 2014 #4
I spend a significant amount of time with people with ASD... Blanks Apr 2014 #5
My daughter is autistic... Dr Hobbitstein Apr 2014 #6
I don't touch people; greiner3 Apr 2014 #9
I think they took Asperger's syndrome out of the DSM 5. eom Blanks Apr 2014 #12
Yes, they did. nt Helen Borg Apr 2014 #15
The poster you responded to said 'A lot' not 'all'. AtheistCrusader Apr 2014 #14
This is true, i am that way mostly nolabels Apr 2014 #10
Wouldn't it be better to say "people with autism" rather than define the person as "autistic?" Glorfindel Apr 2014 #7
It depends on the preferences of the individual. HuckleB Apr 2014 #8
Thank you! That makes it very clear Glorfindel Apr 2014 #13
my best friend has an autistic daughter dembotoz Apr 2014 #11
GoTeamKate: "Stop Making the Conversation Controversial" proverbialwisdom Apr 2014 #16
Derp. HuckleB Apr 2014 #17
More derp from the anti-vaccinc crowd. HuckleB May 2014 #19
Does your curiosity and concern extend to what people say to parents of children with autism, too? proverbialwisdom Apr 2014 #18
This is really excellent! Thanks so much for posting... Rhiannon12866 May 2014 #20
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