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haele

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52. So sorry this is happening -
Mon May 7, 2012, 04:03 PM
May 2012

My grandfather began to mistake me for my mother and around 1994 ended up driving his car up onto a foot-high median on the Foothills Blvd (old Rt. 66) in Covina - 20 miles away from his home when he decided to go looking up one of his fishing buddies who had passed decades ago.
He got terribly lost and tried to make a U-turn across the Blvd into a no-longer-existant motel he was sure was still there from the 1940's. He was "missing" for two days until the hotel he did find to stay at figured out something was wrong and reported him.
My uncle knew Pappy - who was 93 at the time - had been starting to slide into senile dementia for three to four years prior, but because Pappy was a cranky old Scandihoovian who still wanted to be independent and refused to give up the keys to his car, all he did was "keep an eye on him" - until the state pulled Pappy's license for leaving the car on the median.

Hugs for you in dealing with your mom. Hopefully, she can have lucid times that you will be able to have a bit more quality time with her.

Haele

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She might be suffering less than you. PassingFair May 2012 #18
Mom's pretty mad at everybody right now, for taking her out of her house Bake May 2012 #20
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My Dad was diagnosed with cancer...then the dementia set in blueamy66 May 2012 #42
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mom didn't always know me JitterbugPerfume May 2012 #44
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Ask the doctors to check her for Normal Pressure Hydrocephalus too. beac May 2012 #50
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