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21. No, he doesn't. I have noticed he never makes those comments to men since

Wed Nov 6, 2019, 10:54 PM

Nov 2019

our cube is him, me and two other guys. He never comments on their habits or any other men in the department. He does seem to have a bit of an issue w/ certain types of women. I don't think he means it, but there is a pattern.

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Something that drives me crazy at work. [View all] smirkymonkey Nov 2019 OP

Maybe he doesn't know how to make small talk. flying rabbit Nov 2019 #1

GMTA--check out time stamps! nt tblue37 Nov 2019 #3

Yep! flying rabbit Nov 2019 #9

I agree. zanana1 Nov 2019 #39

He might just be socially awkward. Some people just don't know how to make small talk, but tblue37 Nov 2019 #2

You may be right. Thanks for your input. smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #7

He might be a person who is uncomfortable making small talk but feels like he has to do it, The Velveteen Ocelot Nov 2019 #4

He actually is socially awkward. He's very friendly and nice and I should give him the smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #5

I'm like that too. I don't even like compliments. dawg day Nov 2019 #37

Thanks dawg day! smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #41

There's always at least one irritating person in any office. brush Nov 2019 #6

I think work is really getting to me. smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #10

If there isn't... it's you. ret5hd Nov 2019 #12

This message was self-deleted by its author Chin music Nov 2019 #27

I join the 'awkward at small talk" group, he sounds like he has settled on a few fit alls that he braddy Nov 2019 #8

You may be right. He's actually a very nice person, but for some reason, these types of smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #14

It isn't your fault that those comments are kind of annoying to you, those are the type that would braddy Nov 2019 #26

You know something braddy, I think I just had an epiphany. smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #31

Those kind of weird comments set my defenses pnwest Nov 2019 #32

Since the beginning, there has been something about him that has bothered me, but smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #35

I remembered the book: pnwest Nov 2019 #36

Maybe he has a crush on you Ohiogal Nov 2019 #11

It's funny who ends up getting promoted, isn't it? smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #15

It's not your fault Ohiogal Nov 2019 #18

No, he doesn't. I have noticed he never makes those comments to men since smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #21

This message was self-deleted by its author Chin music Nov 2019 #28

My oldest daughter says things like that. griffi94 Nov 2019 #13

I was thinking her boss might have Asperger's or be borderline Asperger's. nt tblue37 Nov 2019 #16

Right. griffi94 Nov 2019 #19

I guess some people think that it might be a way for them to relate to another person. smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #17

Like someone upthread suggested. griffi94 Nov 2019 #20

He doesn't, but he also constantly talks about things that aren't appropriate, such as how smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #22

I understand your POV griffi94 Nov 2019 #23

I am neither therapist nor counselor, but I think... TreasonousBastard Nov 2019 #24

Thanks Treasonous. smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #25

aren't these people kinda just known as assholes? Skittles Nov 2019 #29

It's a little more complicated than that, but sometimes I really feel that way. smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #33

I'm like you, can't stand those comments intrepidity Nov 2019 #30

I would love nothing more than to be able to work alone always. smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #34

I'm agreeing with Ohiogal and several others discntnt_irny_srcsm Nov 2019 #38

I am wfh today. My heat isn't working and I need to wait for the managers to fix it. smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #42

A t-shirt you can wear for both the managers at home and the ones at work discntnt_irny_srcsm Nov 2019 #46

Perfect! smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #47

Food commentary at work - I know it well. Esp if you eat/drink anything that your mainstream work Kashkakat v.2.0 Nov 2019 #40

The thing is that he has so many bizarre little food and drink quirks. smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #43

Like other answers have implied LuckyCharms Nov 2019 #44

Yes! That is exactly what he is like. He always has to say SOMETHING! smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #45

Ya know... Apropos my earlier comment, you really shouldn't... TreasonousBastard Nov 2019 #48

As I was reading reading this last night, SM Niagara Nov 2019 #49

Thanks Niagara! smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #50

You should feel complimented that he makes these comments. He obviously likes you. He is just Doodley Nov 2019 #51

I don't know. Maybe. smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #52

communication apprehension (CA) NJCher Nov 2019 #54

Thanks NJ Cher! smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #56

I think your last paragraph explains wnylib Nov 2019 #57

Thank you wnylib! smirkymonkey Nov 2019 #59

Sm, without knowing this guy, my best guess would be.... KY_EnviroGuy Nov 2019 #53

You could be right about that. I was thinking wnylib Nov 2019 #58

He sounds very insecure. betsuni Nov 2019 #55