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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]secondwind
(16,903 posts)1. I'm sorry you are going through so much.....
There comes a time when it becomes too much, and for your sanity and your health you may have to put your SO in a good place, where they are used to folks like him, and his sheets will be washed, etc.
You deserve a medal for what you are doing, and you will know when it's time to let go.
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I used a baby monitor. Reciever with battery power and a belt clip. Bell was crap idea here.
IADEMO2004
Sep 2020
#12
You are a saint......a gawd send.....an angel......the best your SO could EVER have.
a kennedy
Sep 2020
#7
Dear Soph---Hospice is wonderful. They helped so much when my mother was very ill. When
skylucy
Sep 2020
#15
I just saw this about giving up if hospice is called in. Absolutely not true. I have dealt with
niyad
Sep 2020
#31
Soph0571, I am a cancer survivor & was in home hospice, (didn't know it, lol!) but I know SO
The_REAL_Ecumenist
Sep 2020
#62
Is there in-house hospice care available? Some hospices here in the US do in-home visits. nt
tblue37
Sep 2020
#67
If he is at that stage, he probably just wants you to be by his side. He maybe fearing his departure
judesedit
Sep 2020
#17
(((((((((((((Soph))))))))))))) all the hugs you can handle, from all of your DU family. We are here
niyad
Sep 2020
#18
I am so sorry. I've been there with both my parents but never as bad as it sounds for you.
OregonBlue
Sep 2020
#44
I've been there (and I have my own mobility problems and fear I am getting there)
flotsam
Sep 2020
#45
I'm so very sorry. You need help. I've been there and you will NOT be giving up on him if you call
catbyte
Sep 2020
#50
After reading so many of your posts and responding to a few, my heart goes out to you and
erronis
Sep 2020
#53
Reach out for trained care-giver help. You need it now. He needs it now. Hang in there. It sux.
Evolve Dammit
Sep 2020
#56
Over here there is option for "palliative care" as a step before hospice. But, as others have
FailureToCommunicate
Sep 2020
#57
soph the bell might not be the worst idea.....is it possible to get in some home care for the
dawn5651
Sep 2020
#60
Oh, Soph! I feel so sorry for you and your beloved. I wish things were easier for both of you. nt
tblue37
Sep 2020
#66
Oh, dear Soph, I am so sorry for what you are going through. It is such a tough job for anybody,
smirkymonkey
Sep 2020
#68