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This message was self-deleted by its author [View all] Soph0571 Sep 2020 OP

I'm sorry you are going through so much..... secondwind Sep 2020 #1

Oh my, Soph...I'm so sorry. cayugafalls Sep 2020 #2

First a giant Energy hug for you Tribalceltic Sep 2020 #3

I used a baby monitor. Reciever with battery power and a belt clip. Bell was crap idea here. IADEMO2004 Sep 2020 #12

At least you can still laugh! dawg day Sep 2020 #4

How awful for both of you! pandr32 Sep 2020 #5

Have you considered employing a care provider to help you out? demmiblue Sep 2020 #6

He has givers through a cancer charity Soph0571 Sep 2020 #10

You are a saint......a gawd send.....an angel......the best your SO could EVER have. a kennedy Sep 2020 #7

If you can, get hospice now wryter2000 Sep 2020 #8

I know you are right Soph0571 Sep 2020 #11

Dear Soph---Hospice is wonderful. They helped so much when my mother was very ill. When skylucy Sep 2020 #15

Hospice doesn't mean giving up on your loved one DeminPennswoods Sep 2020 #22

Absolutely right! Rebl2 Sep 2020 #52

I just saw this about giving up if hospice is called in. Absolutely not true. I have dealt with niyad Sep 2020 #31

I will reiterate what others in this subthread have stated Kali Sep 2020 #35

I promise you it does not mean you are giving up on him. Dem2theMax Sep 2020 #39

That's what Art Buchwald thought then he got better. grantcart Sep 2020 #48

I was a hospice nurse for years tavernier Sep 2020 #55

Soph0571, I am a cancer survivor & was in home hospice, (didn't know it, lol!) but I know SO The_REAL_Ecumenist Sep 2020 #62

Is there in-house hospice care available? Some hospices here in the US do in-home visits. nt tblue37 Sep 2020 #67

I'm so sorry - it might be time to get some help. The Velveteen Ocelot Sep 2020 #9

I was thinking tonight about paying for some home care Soph0571 Sep 2020 #13

Strength, dear heart! Sending courage. Guilded Lilly Sep 2020 #14

I'm so SO sorry! CaptainTruth Sep 2020 #16

If he is at that stage, he probably just wants you to be by his side. He maybe fearing his departure judesedit Sep 2020 #17

(((((((((((((Soph))))))))))))) all the hugs you can handle, from all of your DU family. We are here niyad Sep 2020 #18

You need help. barbtries Sep 2020 #19

Oh Soph, if I lived near I'd come give you a hand Mersky Sep 2020 #20

I wish words could help. BobTheSubgenius Sep 2020 #21

I forgot to add... BobTheSubgenius Sep 2020 #23

I'm so sorry for both you and your fella. fleur-de-lisa Sep 2020 #24

That is what you get for not having a whistler162 Sep 2020 #25

Your SO is so lucky to have you people Sep 2020 #26

Oh Sopp. It's so hard being a caretaker. Maraya1969 Sep 2020 #27

Dear Soph MLAA Sep 2020 #28

You've said it yourself: all this is too much. ancianita Sep 2020 #29

Damn! Please stay strong. warmfeet Sep 2020 #30

Oh wow Ohiogal Sep 2020 #32

... Silver Gaia Sep 2020 #33

Prayers/energy being sent for strength and comfort duhneece Sep 2020 #34

You are rising to a Herculean task. Gore1FL Sep 2020 #36

Oh Soph Star-Thrower Sep 2020 #37

So very sorry, Soph gademocrat7 Sep 2020 #38

I said a prayer. You are an angel. Joinfortmill Sep 2020 #40

Sending hugs Midnightwalk Sep 2020 #41

So sorry you & SO are having such a tough time SheltieLover Sep 2020 #42

Thoughts and energy hugs! paleotn Sep 2020 #43

I am so sorry. I've been there with both my parents but never as bad as it sounds for you. OregonBlue Sep 2020 #44

I've been there (and I have my own mobility problems and fear I am getting there) flotsam Sep 2020 #45

Sending strength and peace your way. yellerpup Sep 2020 #46

Take special care marieo1 Sep 2020 #47

Take special care marieo1 Sep 2020 #49

I'm so very sorry. You need help. I've been there and you will NOT be giving up on him if you call catbyte Sep 2020 #50

:hug: elleng Sep 2020 #51

After reading so many of your posts and responding to a few, my heart goes out to you and erronis Sep 2020 #53

Call the Hospice people, ask for help. TNNurse Sep 2020 #54

Reach out for trained care-giver help. You need it now. He needs it now. Hang in there. It sux. Evolve Dammit Sep 2020 #56

Over here there is option for "palliative care" as a step before hospice. But, as others have FailureToCommunicate Sep 2020 #57

... handmade34 Sep 2020 #58

I just wanted to mention something icky PennyK Sep 2020 #59

soph the bell might not be the worst idea.....is it possible to get in some home care for the dawn5651 Sep 2020 #60

Hugs to you both. sinkingfeeling Sep 2020 #61

Hugs to you both - sorry that you're having to go through this. GoneOffShore Sep 2020 #63

sending peace your way deek Sep 2020 #64

Get some help my friend Lifelong Protester Sep 2020 #65

Oh, Soph! I feel so sorry for you and your beloved. I wish things were easier for both of you. nt tblue37 Sep 2020 #66

Oh, dear Soph, I am so sorry for what you are going through. It is such a tough job for anybody, smirkymonkey Sep 2020 #68

Get help iamateacher Sep 2020 #69

So Sorry, Soph Cha Sep 2020 #70