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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)not to mention the emotional pain you are suffering. I will echo what many others here are saying about getting in home hospice care. My mother had her mother move in with them during her very brief demise from a brain tumor and she elected to get in home care and assistance as well, even though she had a lifetime's experience of caring for sick patients.
She was retired nurse/nursing professor who was more than capable of handling many of the tasks that were required, but even she knew that she could not do everything on her own and she had my dad there to help her as well. It is much too big of an undertaking for one person, especially when you have been under so much stress for so long.
Please allow yourself a little break. It does not mean you care any less or have given up, it only means that you understand that everyone has limits and you are no exception. You have been a wonderful, loving caretaker who has gone above and beyond. Asking for a little help will be the best thing for both of you.