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seabeyond

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2. hard. really really, much harder for the first 4, 5 yrs. especially the first couple years.

Reply to yurbud (Original post)

Thu Dec 22, 2011, 02:34 PM

Dec 2011

you dont realize how easy you have it, until you give that only child thing up.

BUT

it is grand after that. really, it is just the first couple that is so hard.

BUT

it is worth it.

i would have had one more, if i wasnt so old when i started. and my boys get along great. very little fighting because i grew up in a house that had us kids fighting, a lot. i hated it and it made me sick. never allowed my boys to fight and they dont. they are 14 and 16... 2 and half year difference.

it is harder, not gonna lie

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two kids vs. one: more work for parents or do they entertain each other? [View all] yurbud Dec 2011 OP

When you and your wife are gone they will still have each other. PassingFair Dec 2011 #1

"You are a huge b***h with a sickening voice, don't ever touch my DOG!" ScreamingMeemie Dec 2011 #12

Oh alright, I didn't say they laughed ALL the time! PassingFair Dec 2011 #21

Yes but . . . . elleng Dec 2011 #22

hard. really really, much harder for the first 4, 5 yrs. especially the first couple years. seabeyond Dec 2011 #2

How old is your first? Brickbat Dec 2011 #3

current kid: 1.6 yrs yurbud Dec 2011 #8

It is more work, we have three kids Burma Jones Dec 2011 #4

There are pros and cons HeiressofBickworth Dec 2011 #5

Not a parent myself, but a great quote from a friend about the subject of work to # of kids: beac Dec 2011 #6

It is more work, but it's worth it. surrealAmerican Dec 2011 #7

It's a lot more work and they may not end up playing with each other riderinthestorm Dec 2011 #9

If my brother and I were playing together MountainLaurel Dec 2011 #11

My husband and I privately called our youngest "coyote chow" for the longest time. riderinthestorm Dec 2011 #18

I got this ... the calculation changs over time ... JoePhilly Dec 2011 #10

More work. HappyMe Dec 2011 #13

more work shanti Dec 2011 #14

Well, with one, you always know who did it. Curmudgeoness Dec 2011 #15

I like having two. And for them, the pressure's not so intense. nolabear Dec 2011 #16

Do it. Have another child. bigwillq Dec 2011 #17

My parents had five kids... one_voice Dec 2011 #19

MUCH more work. Having one child prepares you almost not at all for having two Orrex Dec 2011 #20

Look at it this way, if one takes all your time, two can't take much more. shraby Dec 2011 #23

Have another one XemaSab Dec 2011 #24

Mine are 8 years apart. The funny thing is, the older one always comes down to the younger's level ScreamingMeemie Dec 2011 #25

mine entertained each other and they are still close as teens... Phentex Dec 2011 #26