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Hugh_Lebowski

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4. I'm 56 and the first date I ever got from an internet dating site in my entire life
Tue Dec 27, 2022, 10:05 AM
Dec 2022

Last edited Tue Dec 27, 2022, 10:47 AM - Edit history (1)

Turned out to be my current girlfriend, now of 10 months. I was at her family's for Christmas.

OK Cupid came back with her as my best match at 97.3% (after filling out like 150 questions each), and it turns out ... we're 2 peas in a pod. So much alike it's crazy.

And she's far more accomplished than I (she's a PA-C with certs in 8 states), makes double what I make, and is actually even more liberal than I am

Sex on our first date was a given she told me after, as long as a) I looked like I did in the pics I showed her, and b) my personality IRL matched what she read in my texts, and c) she was feeling some in-person chemistry.

However, we'd been texting for like 10 days at that point, like ALL the time. We were fast friends, and had also spent a good amount time getting to know each other through many conversations ... before we went out.

Also, pro-tip guys (lol) ... turns out it works well for you if you don't bring up sex until the woman does, and then you ask for consent before talking explicitly to her ... go figure

I was definitely NOT her first online date though to your point. But I myself can be a crazy lucky mofo every once in a while at least

Funny story tho, for every inquiry from a single male, she got at least 1 from couples (from M-F, F-F, and M-M once or twice) inviting her to be the 3rd for their playtime.

I'm 62 and have a couple prospects. Women I've known for a while. One since junior high. brewens Dec 2022 #1
I wouldn't judge you naked Duncanpup Dec 2022 #3
It's better before lunch Effete Snob Dec 2022 #5
reminds me of the old snl skit lower expectations...... dembotoz Dec 2022 #2
That was Mad TV, not SNL. Ray Bruns Dec 2022 #10
I'm 56 and the first date I ever got from an internet dating site in my entire life Hugh_Lebowski Dec 2022 #4
Congrats!! WA-03 Democrat Dec 2022 #8
Thanks, I am indeed fortunate, and hat's off back at ya! Hugh_Lebowski Dec 2022 #9
I've been married for 27 years, so not looking, but Mr.Bill Dec 2022 #19
My father met my step mother at a "widow widowers" club. They were like teenagers dating... NNadir Dec 2022 #6
This is so beautiful Duncanpup Dec 2022 #7
My Dating Experiences Since My Divorce... GB_RN Dec 2022 #11
"giving up on this game".... yup with no clear instruction... If xy then y≠z?.. uff I'm confused. mitch96 Dec 2022 #13
I gave up in my 50s. multigraincracker Dec 2022 #12
It's as confusing as it ever was IMO. You still meet people who have unstated expectations Ford_Prefect Dec 2022 #14
My parents found love at 48 and 49. They have both been happily married for over 30 years. IrishEyes Dec 2022 #15
I gave up a long time ago. I've always been weird and now I'm old and weird Ocelot II Dec 2022 #16
Same here. 2naSalit Dec 2022 #17
This made me so sad Duncanpup Dec 2022 #18
It's the way we live... 2naSalit Dec 2022 #21
I been truck driving 35 years all teamsters Duncanpup Dec 2022 #26
I was... 2naSalit Dec 2022 #27
Understand Duncanpup Dec 2022 #28
It was quite a lot of... 2naSalit Dec 2022 #29
You're good people friend Duncanpup Dec 2022 #30
And so are you. 2naSalit Dec 2022 #31
I'm sorry it worked out that way for you. Ocelot II Dec 2022 #20
The latter part... 2naSalit Dec 2022 #22
I don't want to talk about it. panader0 Dec 2022 #23
I have nothing to contribute except I'd really like to hug all my DU friends & wish you a very happy Hekate Dec 2022 #24
when dating a guy with quite a bit of money.... Skittles Dec 2022 #25
it sucks. mopinko Dec 2022 #32
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