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Warpy

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8. AlAnon can help, they're for family and friends of alcoholics and addicts
Wed Mar 29, 2023, 12:13 AM
Mar 2023

and everybody's story is depressingly similar. I know because I've been there, too.

She's your sister, you want to help, but helping became enabling a long time ago. Getting her off whatever shit she's on is no longer your job and hasn't been for a very long time. It's her job. She might not want to do that job and someday that will kill her.

Alcoholics and addicts tend to suck everybody else down with them, making their family and friends even sicker than they are. If you're interested in the cheapest therapy out there, AlAnon is in the phone directory and there are groups online.

Good luck. Cutting her off from her last ditch money supply is good. Learning how to set some limits with her is better, allowing you to keep what's left of the sister you remember from childhood while not being exploited by the manipulative abuser she is now.

Lesson #1: getting high is everything to her. She might really want to help you out but if some friend of hers has some drugs, she'll drop you flat on your face to go get high. It's not who she wants to be. It's who she is.

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