Remember, Karma will not ever plate you more than you can handle even if it feels that way.
(Apologies for talking in metaphors, but this was the sold advice that helped me most)
Grief is a bitter hard candy lodged in your throat that you can't make go away all at once. You must take opportunities to acknowledge it's there and lick away at it in your own time. Allow yourself space to grieve and don't push it down or try to forget about it so it won't rise up and choke you at unexpected moments that aren't on your terms. Don't neglect opportunities to remember and reminisce with joy or tears which will melt it down to a level where you can live comfortably alongside it.
My cousin warned me and this exact thing happened: there will be a time in the future when everything is done and your thoughts are clear and you think you're okay. You'll be sitting quietly with no interruption and that's when your brain will decide to remove a long-standing buffer of shock designed to protect you and finally allow you to purge the grief. You want that bitter candy to be the size of a breath mint rather than a gobstopper at that time when your psyche decides to cough it up. The more familiar and experienced you are with the taste will make that moment more cathartic than traumatic when it does happen and you can finally chew through it.
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