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33. A couple more tips.

Mon Feb 12, 2024, 04:48 PM

Feb 2024

Then I will shut up.

When you are talking with her, stay in adult mode.
Stick to how you are feeling and what you want and need.
Stick to "I" messages, don't start "you-ing" her.....
as in "You are a bad partner. " "You leave me alone all weekend."

Say things like: I don't like being alone on holidays and weekends.
I would like to get to know your family better and be included in activities.

If she starts to get angry or defensive you may have to back off...
See if she cools down.

If you get nowhere, you have an answer.

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Super Bowl Party of One [View all] orangecrush Feb 2024 OP

Stop.....you are not alone....let us help....SF ..PICK SIX.. asiliveandbreathe Feb 2024 #1

Thanks orangecrush Feb 2024 #5

If you are not allowed to interact with her family, how are they supposed to get to know you? Irish_Dem Feb 2024 #2

Look like orangecrush Feb 2024 #6

You are quite correct. Irish_Dem Feb 2024 #10

Yep orangecrush Feb 2024 #15

There are a number of options. Irish_Dem Feb 2024 #17

Spot on orangecrush Feb 2024 #20

Well at least talk to her and see if you can make some progress. Irish_Dem Feb 2024 #24

Thanks orangecrush Feb 2024 #25

At least if you have to leave, you know you did what you could to make it work. Irish_Dem Feb 2024 #26

Thanks orangecrush Feb 2024 #29

YW Irish_Dem Feb 2024 #31

Good plan orangecrush Feb 2024 #32

A couple more tips. Irish_Dem Feb 2024 #33

Sound advice. orangecrush Feb 2024 #34

I think it's weird that she is having a party with her 30 year old son and didn't invite you because she thought MLAA Feb 2024 #3

Thanks orangecrush Feb 2024 #7

No, you are not TA. At least you're here, you're not alone. Croney Feb 2024 #4

Thank you orangecrush Feb 2024 #8

Well, DU is here and happy to have you sit in with US! calimary Feb 2024 #9

Thanks, calimary orangecrush Feb 2024 #12

I'm sorry for your hurt feelings. Lefta Dissenter Feb 2024 #11

Thanks much orangecrush Feb 2024 #13

Answer MotownPgh Feb 2024 #14

Agreed orangecrush Feb 2024 #16

I'm heah, my buddy! 🩷 sprinkleeninow Feb 2024 #18

Thanks! orangecrush Feb 2024 #22

If I were you, I'd almost feel like she is ashamed of me. Why else not be invited to the party? Ziggysmom Feb 2024 #19

The Weimaraner orangecrush Feb 2024 #21

Dogs are good judges of character and you passed her test! MLAA Feb 2024 #23

A Pit/Boxer, Weimaraner, and Rott mix orangecrush Feb 2024 #30

Be thankful you have a girlfriend. Ferrets are Cool Feb 2024 #27

Thanks orangecrush Feb 2024 #28