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6. Didn't grow up in religion, so can't really help you there

Fri Dec 30, 2011, 04:40 AM

Dec 2011

although I did do several years of self-imposed immersion in a very fundamental Christian mindset, so I also know what that is like, and after rejecting it, waiting many years before I was truly free of the last vestiges. It was an amazing feeling when I finally knew I was free from it. The test, for me, was to blaspheme god and not feel a goddamned thing, not guilt, not fear, nothing.

So I hope you can get to that point (or rather, whatever point you want to get to. Mine was extreme). Keep working on it, I think it can be done.

But again, my case was very different and yet it took years to get over, even though none of my indoctrination happened when I was a child. So I can only imagine how difficult it is for you.

But the eventual freedom from fear is something amazing to behold, so don't give up.

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