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18. patriarchal religion is, imo, harmful for females

Fri Dec 30, 2011, 05:11 PM

Dec 2011

females are taught to hate themselves and devalue themselves through xtianity.

they are taught to take shit from bad people.

that's not just my opinion - but it is also my opinion.

when my family tried to guilt me into raising my children in a church or worried that people would think my children were bastards because I didn't take my husband's name - I just ignored them.

but I had many friends who thought about these things in the same way that I did, which makes such stances easier, and I lived hours away from family members.

if your m-i-l attends a church that insists on teaching women are less than men, I would tell her, if she wants to take them to church, she needs to find one that doesn't teach such shit-for-brains doctrine.

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