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Broken_Hero

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19. It took me a few years

Fri Dec 30, 2011, 05:30 PM

Dec 2011

I was raised in a strong Mormon household, and I was basically done with church when I was 14, but was forced to go. When I turned 18 the pressure to serve on a mormon mission was very strong, and I fought against that greatly. I gave up on the church, and I officially began the "fuck your church Mom/Dad" war, around Xmas of 95. It took me about 2-3 years to shake off a lot of indoctrination, but it wasn't that hard to do.

The hardest aspect was trying to get my parents to officially stop trying to "save" me, I cannot recall how many times missionaries, or folks from the church I grew up in try to save me from my life of sin. The war hasn't ended either, I thought last summer when my parents were visiting the war was over, because it was the first time in AGES that my mom didn't bring up anything church wise, but that officially ended ten days ago when I got a letter from a local Mormon Ward inviting me over for Xmas stuff. After confronting my mother about the Xmas letter I got from the Ward, she confessed that she got in contact with them and asked them to try and get me active in church again...the shit never ends.

For times of hardship I don't think I deserve it persay, I chalk it up to its my time to carry the load of horseshit for a while, good times/bad times are a circular issue to me, lately I haven't had to carry the load of horseshit, but I know my shift is coming up soon.

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