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In reply to the discussion: Well I just got dumped. [View all]LeftofObama
(4,243 posts)A few years ago I was going through exactly what you are going through now. I sat down and turned on the tv and my favorite sitcom of all time was on, Frasier.
On this particular episode a caller called in to his show and was grieving over the end of a relationship. She said she had been crying and felt like her life had just stopped and she didn't know what to do. I thought, "Oh my God, that's me!" Well, here was his advise, and in my opinion no truer words were ever spoken, I'll try to explain it the way I understood it:
Many times when we mourn the loss of a relationship it's not the loss of the person that we are mourning. We are mourning the loss of the way we thought things were going to be. For example, You probably had dreams of how things were going to be in the relationship. The house with the white picket fence, two kids, a dog, etc. Well, those plans didn't end, just the person you thought they were going to be with.
I took it to mean that just because one person came close to fulfilling that part of the dream with you doesn't mean that there isn't another person who WILL fulfill that part of the dream with you. Hang in there and hold on to those hopes and dreams. It'll happen, and it'll happen with the RIGHT person!
I hope I made sense in explaining it. It helped get me through the tough times.