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kooljerk666

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116. I think that all the time....
Sun Oct 14, 2012, 07:37 PM
Oct 2012

any never go out & the other day I went to the library & ran into 3 very nice women very very nice to me.

I am still grieving a terrible loss my self & was nervous & stammering & made no connection BUT I saw I was not worthless!!

I had not shaved for 2-3 weeks & looked pretty scruffy, manson like & some people were still friendly to me, I could not believe it.

Long greyish hair, long grey beard & mustache is pretty bad too, I may let it go & do a fu man chu, and I am over 50 also.

Well I just got dumped. [View all] alarimer Oct 2012 OP
That's harsh, but there isn't any easy way, I don't think. bluedigger Oct 2012 #1
No, but I had no idea this was coming. alarimer Oct 2012 #2
Well, I don't know either of you but he is a shit. Robyn66 Oct 2012 #49
I think all the advice here had been pretty good. alarimer Oct 2012 #61
And that is ok Robyn66 Oct 2012 #64
Haven't you been talking about getting rid of this guy for a while? PassingFair Oct 2012 #106
I'm sorry. It sucks. kwassa Oct 2012 #3
I'm too old to start over alarimer Oct 2012 #11
You are never too old to start over. kwassa Oct 2012 #17
WE want you!! I want you! lastlib Oct 2012 #32
I have a cat. alarimer Oct 2012 #35
I think you should get another cat I have 2. ArnoldLayne Oct 2012 #53
Look at it this way: You've just avoided a long-term mistake!! lastlib Oct 2012 #68
My dad met the love of his life when he was 76. She was 79. riderinthestorm Oct 2012 #34
That's sweet alarimer Oct 2012 #37
My grandfather also got remarried in his late 60s after my grandmother died. mythology Oct 2012 #110
Who is going to want you? hamsterjill Oct 2012 #57
How old are you? GermanDem Oct 2012 #73
I think that all the time.... kooljerk666 Oct 2012 #116
How awful, my dear alarimer... CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2012 #4
I was sort of ugly to him on the phone alarimer Oct 2012 #7
I disagree... WillParkinson Oct 2012 #44
Nah, that's not being ugly Hayabusa Oct 2012 #87
I had it happen to me DFW Oct 2012 #45
that's really shitty MrsBrady Oct 2012 #5
But I can't start over at my age; I just can't alarimer Oct 2012 #9
Sure you can. Lots of people do. The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2012 #10
Not here, not in this crappy little town. alarimer Oct 2012 #12
If you can move, maybe you should, though it would be a shame The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2012 #16
I meant more like someday alarimer Oct 2012 #18
Hey, I had to start over much later than that. I'm really happy with it. Hoyt Oct 2012 #13
I'm just going back over everything in my mind alarimer Oct 2012 #20
I'll bet distance had a whole lot to do with it. Hoyt Oct 2012 #30
44? You have got to be kidding me! Trust me, your life is far from over. You will get smarter too OffWithTheirHeads Oct 2012 #21
Thanks. alarimer Oct 2012 #22
You will be fine. OffWithTheirHeads Oct 2012 #36
That is all you are 44 and you think your old. No your still young, I'm 54 and single I ArnoldLayne Oct 2012 #54
I'm a 45 woman and recently broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years cherish44 Oct 2012 #102
That is all very good advice alarimer Oct 2012 #111
um what's wrong with fat rednecks? woolldog Oct 2012 #23
Yes, I apologize for that. alarimer Oct 2012 #24
nah i was just trying to make you laugh woolldog Oct 2012 #25
My wife was 46 when I met her. klook Oct 2012 #27
Thanks alarimer Oct 2012 #28
OMG alarimer, you are just a baby at 44! You have years crunch60 Oct 2012 #43
Honey 44 is NOT old Robyn66 Oct 2012 #50
Hey, I happen to be 50 hfojvt Oct 2012 #72
44, and you think you are old? Aerows Oct 2012 #79
What the hell does 44 have to do with it? MrMickeysMom Oct 2012 #94
Hey I am 51yo 5'10 155lbs........... kooljerk666 Oct 2012 #117
Yeah, being blindsided is a tough one benld74 Oct 2012 #6
I don't know. alarimer Oct 2012 #8
He has dented your ability to trust people, your own sense of knowing you are correct in your benld74 Oct 2012 #67
Yes, it sucks hard enough to bend light. The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2012 #14
I know all this alarimer Oct 2012 #15
I'm sorry, alarimer. You must be in a lot of pain right now. Aristus Oct 2012 #19
So......what do you do? CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2012 #26
Thanks for this. alarimer Oct 2012 #29
Such a good idea, Peg MrMickeysMom Oct 2012 #95
Damn, I'm really sorry to hear that. He's an idiot... petronius Oct 2012 #31
Sorry alarimer. dawg Oct 2012 #33
he is a jerk. period. irisblue Oct 2012 #38
I'm sorry. Chellee Oct 2012 #39
I just don't know how to fill the time alarimer Oct 2012 #40
You do know. Chellee Oct 2012 #41
THis makes me think of 2 suggestions that really help me get through rough times: raccoon Oct 2012 #47
Sorry I know how much it must hurt, I feel bad for you. ArnoldLayne Oct 2012 #52
that's why you need a puppy..... lastlib Oct 2012 #70
Nobody can be sad around a puppy alarimer Oct 2012 #76
Hugs... HipChick Oct 2012 #42
Wow. He's already unfriended me on Facebook alarimer Oct 2012 #46
My daughter got dumped in a Facebook message revolution breeze Oct 2012 #48
No, This is for the best. Give him no message, no contact, nothing. LuckyLib Oct 2012 #86
I've known the feeling rather well. Try to view it as an opportunity rather than a tragedy. HopeHoops Oct 2012 #51
That's a good message to keep in mind. hedgehog Oct 2012 #62
Long distance romances are the hardest. Baitball Blogger Oct 2012 #55
I know. I was worried about it. alarimer Oct 2012 #75
It is something that comes from age, but there are some decisions that will occur in your life, Baitball Blogger Oct 2012 #78
I hope so alarimer Oct 2012 #81
That really sucks. geardaddy Oct 2012 #56
Well, all you can do is resist the urge to call him ever again, and TwilightGardener Oct 2012 #58
I need answers though alarimer Oct 2012 #60
I know. I was baffled too, as to why my boyfriend dumped me. He didn't dump me TwilightGardener Oct 2012 #66
You want answers, but there may be no answers. kwassa Oct 2012 #83
I've been there...probably most of pipi_k Oct 2012 #59
Over the PHONE? What a coward! Odin2005 Oct 2012 #63
He says he wasn't and I've never known him to lie. alarimer Oct 2012 #65
Ugh. geardaddy Oct 2012 #71
Be strong and don't try to get him back. You'll just injure your pride more Populist_Prole Oct 2012 #69
I just wish I had some answers as to why alarimer Oct 2012 #80
I know the feeling. RebelOne Oct 2012 #74
Vibes going your way. applegrove Oct 2012 #77
Hang in there alarimer. It WILL get better. Tuesday Afternoon Oct 2012 #82
Is he ever going to talk to me again? alarimer Oct 2012 #84
Maybe, maybe not. But you have no control over that. TwilightGardener Oct 2012 #85
Who knows? Whatever you do, though, don't try to contact him. The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2012 #89
Aw sweetie... redqueen Oct 2012 #91
I'm sorry. GoCubsGo Oct 2012 #88
I'm so, so sorry.. redqueen Oct 2012 #90
Where do you live? mykpart Oct 2012 #92
North Carolina, now. alarimer Oct 2012 #98
Call him back. tavernier Oct 2012 #93
He did email me back. alarimer Oct 2012 #99
I'm a little late to this thread, but may I throw in my 2 cents? LeftofObama Oct 2012 #96
That is good advice. alarimer Oct 2012 #101
This might be a key. kwassa Oct 2012 #107
seven years alarimer Oct 2012 #108
I think that there is a difference kwassa Oct 2012 #109
Ah! He has kids, you do not (and don't want to). MUCH clearer! riderinthestorm Oct 2012 #120
Being single is the best Mario_Ordinario Oct 2012 #97
My family says "Solitude before settling" alarimer Oct 2012 #100
Sorry, kiddo. Iggo Oct 2012 #103
Hugs to you. Helen Reddy Oct 2012 #104
My suggestion: If you're not doing so already, start working out cherish44 Oct 2012 #105
Don't grovel, and never, ever give up... a la izquierda Oct 2012 #112
I am so sorry! *hugs* GreenPartyVoter Oct 2012 #113
Just saw this. blueamy66 Oct 2012 #114
This message was self-deleted by its author kooljerk666 Oct 2012 #115
I'm sorry for your experiences alarimer Oct 2012 #118
This message was self-deleted by its author kooljerk666 Oct 2012 #119
Sounds like... discntnt_irny_srcsm Oct 2012 #121
Maybe this song will help you through RedCloud Oct 2012 #122
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