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Martin Eden

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20. Same with me and my wife

Wed Jun 10, 2026, 10:53 AM

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She will state or ask something totally out of context, using a generic word like "thing" or "it" instead of an identifying word.

This is compounded by my hearing loss, even with hearing aids. I often guess at what the hell she's talking about, almost always wrong.

When we're watching TV together we converse about the program, but she tends to speak at the same time as dialogue, then I can't understand either. She's much better at multi-tasking her attention, whereas I'm more narrowly focused.

I tend to tune out during commercials, reading a magazine or something on my phone. She will make a comment about a commercial, so it's totally out of context for me. Then I have to ask what she meant with her comment, or just ignore her.

She is not pleased with either.

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