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riderinthestorm

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4. She's already taking weekly voice lessons. She dropped her instrument when she got to high school
Thu Nov 22, 2012, 01:31 AM
Nov 2012

way too "uncool" she said. So we subbed in voice lessons instead. Her voice coach LOVES her. She really is amazing. She has ALL the music software at home that she could ever desire - she ignores it.

I'm hugely interested in what you think might be "something to call her own"? That's her "language" exactly. These guys in the band are the only ones on the whole planet who "get her" (her words )

Mom hanging around practices is my only compromise I believe. That would be entirely unacceptable for her but I can't see dropping her off into what looks like sure fire self-destruction...

I feel very boxed in and helpless. The "band scene" looks pretty druggy imho. We're atheists or I'd try to steer her into the Christian rock scene (is that less druggy?!)

I've never been in a band, or a groupie. I don't want to be judgmental, nor do I want to close off options for her but this worries me on many levels.



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I'd be extremely wary. She's under age. She's vulnerable. She's unhappy. nolabear Nov 2012 #1
the indie band scene is not good for her. Huge amounts of drugs and alcohol around TeamPooka Nov 2012 #2
It might be risky Tsiyu Nov 2012 #3
She's already taking weekly voice lessons. She dropped her instrument when she got to high school riderinthestorm Nov 2012 #4
I think you are more than supportive Tsiyu Nov 2012 #6
That is exactly what I was going to recommend... femmocrat Nov 2012 #11
Thats a tough one. Joe Shlabotnik Nov 2012 #5
I'm honestly not sure what to tell you. AverageJoe90 Nov 2012 #7
Very tough decision wyldwolf Nov 2012 #8
She'll go her own way no matter what you do. Give her support and MOST OF ALL... HopeHoops Nov 2012 #9
Keep her away from them. These idiots sound like bad news. Odin2005 Nov 2012 #10
Funny. kurtzapril4 Nov 2012 #15
Off topic but that is way cool. OriginalGeek Nov 2012 #17
Are these peers, or are these considerably older men? TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #12
16 - 21 years old. They all went to/go to the same high school as she does. riderinthestorm Nov 2012 #13
That doesn't sound too bad, then. Yep, if it's all about the TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #14
1 good reason.... kurtzapril4 Nov 2012 #16
They'd have to be pretty upstanding individuals for me to trust a TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #18
Whatever. kurtzapril4 Nov 2012 #20
Didn't say they were. Just that I wouldn't let my TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #21
if it about the music she/they will put up with your supervision Kali Nov 2012 #19
As someone who was the kid doing those things at 15... Chan790 Nov 2012 #22
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