My (just) 16 year old daughter has been invited to sing the lead vocals for a band

[Tsiyu]

6. I think you are more than supportive

given all that you're providing.

If it's really about "the music," then the band situation can wait.

As for "something to call her own" I was thinking of music, or some other interest or hobby, which most kids get at some point.

Nothing more or less than that. Some kids never find anything.

But with her, you have gone above and beyond the call of duty. Her music is her something, and she has a lifetime to find bands to join.

She has to understand her past lack of judgment is limiting her present freedom, while still being allowed small bits of freedom to practice not fucking up. It's hard, and my heart goes out to you. She wants to be grown up all at once, and she has already practiced the darker side of that.

Go with your gut anyway; you know her better than anyone.

She is lucky she has a mom who cares.