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9. She'll go her own way no matter what you do. Give her support and MOST OF ALL...

Reply to riderinthestorm (Original post)

Thu Nov 22, 2012, 10:00 AM

Nov 2012

... let her know that no matter what happens, she's always got a home to come back to. The worst thing you can do is alienate her, and trust me, you can't change her mind or her behavior. And who knows - maybe she'll be the next Pat Benatar.

My youngest decided she hated living here and moved in with my dad for her senior year. We signed over custody rights (well, it's joint). She's not into drinking or drugs, and certainly not sex (yet), but she just wasn't happy. She's home for Thanksgiving and totally happy now. We did the right thing. She'll be going back on Sunday. The thing that finally got to us is an old saying... "If you love something, set it free..."

Just give her a hug and tell her you love her. She'll come around. What she needs now is your support and confidence in her. Lead singer for a band is NOT an easy gig to score. That shows ambition.

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My (just) 16 year old daughter has been invited to sing the lead vocals for a band [View all] riderinthestorm Nov 2012 OP

I'd be extremely wary. She's under age. She's vulnerable. She's unhappy. nolabear Nov 2012 #1

the indie band scene is not good for her. Huge amounts of drugs and alcohol around TeamPooka Nov 2012 #2

It might be risky Tsiyu Nov 2012 #3

She's already taking weekly voice lessons. She dropped her instrument when she got to high school riderinthestorm Nov 2012 #4

I think you are more than supportive Tsiyu Nov 2012 #6

That is exactly what I was going to recommend... femmocrat Nov 2012 #11

Thats a tough one. Joe Shlabotnik Nov 2012 #5

I'm honestly not sure what to tell you. AverageJoe90 Nov 2012 #7

Very tough decision wyldwolf Nov 2012 #8

She'll go her own way no matter what you do. Give her support and MOST OF ALL... HopeHoops Nov 2012 #9

Keep her away from them. These idiots sound like bad news. Odin2005 Nov 2012 #10

Funny. kurtzapril4 Nov 2012 #15

Off topic but that is way cool. OriginalGeek Nov 2012 #17

Are these peers, or are these considerably older men? TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #12

16 - 21 years old. They all went to/go to the same high school as she does. riderinthestorm Nov 2012 #13

That doesn't sound too bad, then. Yep, if it's all about the TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #14

1 good reason.... kurtzapril4 Nov 2012 #16

They'd have to be pretty upstanding individuals for me to trust a TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #18

Whatever. kurtzapril4 Nov 2012 #20

Didn't say they were. Just that I wouldn't let my TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #21

if it about the music she/they will put up with your supervision Kali Nov 2012 #19

As someone who was the kid doing those things at 15... Chan790 Nov 2012 #22