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32. Sending you big virtual hugs.

Mon Dec 10, 2012, 07:57 PM

Dec 2012

You have really been through a horrible time, wow. I'm so sorry about your losses, especially your mom. I also have PTSD (survived 9/11) and I know it really never ever leaves you. There are things you can do to cope better with it though.

About your mom -- I firmly believe that your mom would never want you to be so tortured over her death. Please know that she really is ion a good place now, with no pain, and wants you to be happy. Remember that she had a good life, and you were a good child to her. Try to focus on the gifts that being her child gave you, not the pain. I hope you feel better soon.

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Sending good vibes your way. geardaddy Dec 2012 #1

Thank you friend. eugene jones Dec 2012 #2

Sounds like you need LOTS of hugs Mr Jones riderinthestorm Dec 2012 #3

Thanks a lot, Rider eugene jones Dec 2012 #5

"...I am here to try to regain my equilibrium..." Wait Wut Dec 2012 #4

I'm starting to do this by going tonight... eugene jones Dec 2012 #6

I know that some people think you're HopeHoops, but I know they're wrong. CaliforniaPeggy Dec 2012 #7

Thanks so much, Peggy. eugene jones Dec 2012 #10

SRSLY??? Christ on a pogo stick...this place sometimes. nolabear Dec 2012 #28

There were folks in Meta who either said it, or implied it. CaliforniaPeggy Dec 2012 #29

The Lounge is a good place to find your groove on DU. Hope you find yours Eugene. bluesbassman Dec 2012 #8

Thanks, handsome eugene jones Dec 2012 #11

Sending good vibes and some (possibly unwanted) advice - hedgehog Dec 2012 #9

Thank you for the good advice, hedgehog eugene jones Dec 2012 #12

I'm glad you're here. In_The_Wind Dec 2012 #13

I'm glad you are here too. eugene jones Dec 2012 #14

So sorry to hear about all of your loss and troubles. hrmjustin Dec 2012 #15

And you have a friend in me. eugene jones Dec 2012 #16

Dude graywarrior Dec 2012 #17

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You are in the right spot. the Lounge is supposed to be a friendly place to hang around. Kali Dec 2012 #19

Thanks Kali! eugene jones Dec 2012 #20

... progressoid Dec 2012 #21

I'm very sorry about the loss of your brother. eugene jones Dec 2012 #41

I don't know anything about you, but that's a lot for anyone to deal with. DaniDubois Dec 2012 #22

Thank you very much, Dani. eugene jones Dec 2012 #42

I know it sounds cliche', LeftofObama Dec 2012 #23

Thank you! I wish the best for you too. eugene jones Dec 2012 #43

Thanks for sharing that with us. Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #24

Well said! hrmjustin Dec 2012 #26

Thanks, Baitball eugene jones Dec 2012 #44

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Thank you very much. Great avatar! nt eugene jones Dec 2012 #46

Oh Honey, what a lot to go through at once. I'm sorry. nolabear Dec 2012 #27

Thank you for the kind words... eugene jones Dec 2012 #47

I'm sorry you've had to experience so much trauma Dont call me Shirley Dec 2012 #30

I'm trying to plow thrugh it eugene jones Dec 2012 #48

!!! MiddleFingerMom Dec 2012 #31

Alerting. I'm lerting on this. eugene jones Dec 2012 #49

Sending you big virtual hugs. rivegauche Dec 2012 #32

My best wishes are with you... eugene jones Dec 2012 #50

You have all our sympathies for your difficult path through this time, eugene. calimary Dec 2012 #33

calimary! eugene jones Dec 2012 #51

I hug you and riverbendviewgal Dec 2012 #34

I'm so very sorry. eugene jones Dec 2012 #52

I hope to riverbendviewgal Dec 2012 #73

Oh my. Jaw dropping and heart-wrenching. October Dec 2012 #35

Thank you so much. eugene jones Dec 2012 #53

a friend told me at my son's memorial riverbendviewgal Dec 2012 #74

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i used to have some disassociate issues MrsBrady Dec 2012 #36

I'm going to look into this further MrsBrady eugene jones Dec 2012 #54

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Thank you, pintobean eugene jones Dec 2012 #55

Yes, I just noticed that obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #67

You are due . . . Brigid Dec 2012 #38

Brigid, to paraphrase one of the best posters on this site... eugene jones Dec 2012 #56

Hang in there..... Grantuspeace Dec 2012 #39

Very wise words. eugene jones Dec 2012 #57

Depression is something that can affect any one of us Major Nikon Dec 2012 #40

Oh that's so true. eugene jones Dec 2012 #59

I'll leave you with what Loudin Wainwright wrote about his mom Major Nikon Dec 2012 #70

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Thanks rug! eugene jones Dec 2012 #60

eugene... femmocrat Dec 2012 #58

Thank you, femmocrat eugene jones Dec 2012 #61

Sweet........ Pharaoh Dec 2012 #62

Yes. Thank you, Pharaoh. eugene jones Dec 2012 #81

Good to cry. You've been through a lot. Crying will get you to the applegrove Dec 2012 #63

I wish the best for you eugene jones Dec 2012 #85

All my good vibes to you, Eugene.... Honeycombe8 Dec 2012 #64

I wish thaat I had the energy to give this post the response it deserves... eugene jones Dec 2012 #98

Damn, I know exactly what you are going through! Odin2005 Dec 2012 #65

Me, too, kind of. GoCubsGo Dec 2012 #75

Cubs.... eugene jones Dec 2012 #102

Jeez, Odin, I'm so sorry. eugene jones Dec 2012 #87

Hugs. 840high Dec 2012 #66

And back to you. eugene jones Dec 2012 #89

How about some empathy? roody Dec 2012 #68

Hugs, eugene. Waiting For Everyman Dec 2012 #69

Recent...exactly...it all feels recent... eugene jones Dec 2012 #86

From my own experience I can tell you that your mother's death part will fade a lot lunatica Dec 2012 #71

Thank you, lunatica eugene jones Dec 2012 #100

Sometimes seems like it never rains but it pours. May I suggest that you reconsider raccoon Dec 2012 #72

The best to you also, raccoon eugene jones Dec 2012 #101

I just want to say two things. Heidi Dec 2012 #76

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I'm just the opposite... sagetea Dec 2012 #77

This is incredibly comforting eugene jones Dec 2012 #99

You've come to the right place. WilliamPitt Dec 2012 #78

Thanks William eugene jones Dec 2012 #97

Welcome to DU. Call Me Wesley Dec 2012 #79

here is one for you Kali Dec 2012 #82

Thank you, Wesley eugene jones Dec 2012 #83

I'm truly sorry to hear you have had so much turmoil lately. Quantess Dec 2012 #80

Suffering... eugene jones Dec 2012 #93

Hi, eugene jones... OneGrassRoot Dec 2012 #88

Thank you, OneGrassRoot eugene jones Dec 2012 #91

Welcome to DU, eugene jones. Ptah Dec 2012 #92

Oh she's so beautiful. Ptah eugene jones Dec 2012 #94

DU is not a safe place datasuspect Dec 2012 #95

I know. eugene jones Dec 2012 #96

I will delete the OP and post it below. eugene jones Dec 2012 #103