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[Honeycombe8]

64. All my good vibes to you, Eugene....

You are handling your trials and tribulations better than I would be. I could say that time will make things better. In a way, I guess that's true in that we put one foot in front of the other, and march on, and become more like who we used to be. But we are the sum of our past experiences. So we can never be exactly who we were before, but those painful, awful experiences become part of who we are.

They say what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. Sort of like building up muscle from working out with weights.

I have a book called The Art of Happiness by the Dalai Lama. There's a lot in that book, but one thing he mentions about suffering is that it may help to recognize that suffering is a natural part of life. There can also be something good that comes out of it. For one thing, it could help yu become a more compassionate and empathetic person toward others who suffer.

Your trials are now part of who you are. My trials have made me bitter in a way But then I also recognize how lucky I've been in other ways that others have not been. And I recognize the time I wasted feeling sorry for myself and dwelling too much on the adversity, not seeing what I can now see in retrospect: that I had so many good things going on, that I wasn't focusing on at the time because I was so focused on the problems. If you have good health, a few years ahead of you, a decent job (or some sort of income), health care, and a couple of friends, you have a lot to be thankful for. You have a house, too!

Good luck. Thanks for reminding me what problems others have faced that I have been spared, so far. Except for the dog. I've had to face that several times....pieces of my heart remained behind. But I now have two frisky wonderful rescue dogs that make my heart almost burst with love.