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NuclearDem

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9. Best advice: don't try to be someone you're not.

Mon Sep 9, 2013, 09:18 PM

Sep 2013

I did that for years and hated it. I tried to do what all the popular people wanted to do, and it got me nowhere.

Find something you enjoy doing or talking about, and just let it grow from there. You'll end up finding other people who enjoy the same things, especially in a university environment.

Just remember that other people are people too, and plenty of them are dealing with the same kind of anxiety and nervousness as you are, even the ones who would've been the popular ones a few years ago. No one is better than any other that way.

If the pressures about being considered popular, attractive, or any of the other pointless social demands are getting to you, then don't worry about it. I know it sounds contradictory, but people respect and admire someone who's comfortable in their own skin.

You'll be fine. Just remember this is a time for you to discover yourself, and nobody else has the right to make you someone you don't want to be.

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I SO wish I could let loose!... [View all] Locut0s Sep 2013 OP

..... steve2470 Sep 2013 #1

Fake it till you make it? Frosty1 Sep 2013 #2

pick something super super small..... steve2470 Sep 2013 #3

My dear Locut0s! CaliforniaPeggy Sep 2013 #4

Have a listen TrogL Sep 2013 #5

You've come a long way this year ... In_The_Wind Sep 2013 #6

Please don't beat yourself up! Tanuki Sep 2013 #7

you can't plan spontaneity. Sort of an oxymoron there. Like Tuesday Afternoon Sep 2013 #8

Best advice: don't try to be someone you're not. NuclearDem Sep 2013 #9

That used to be me Generic Brad Sep 2013 #10

Use that. Gidney N Cloyd Sep 2013 #11