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8. The question uually comes down to prognosis and pain.

Sun Oct 20, 2013, 01:07 AM

Oct 2013

People often talk about quality of life but I think it's usually those two things. Any pain they can usually manage.

The doctors probably don't know but see if they have any hard facts on his prognosis. Strokes are strange things. Personally, unless they said he was terminal, I'd wait. The first question to me is life or death. There is time afterwards to consider the quality of life issues.

You really can't make a wrong decision though. Whatever you choose, it will be borne out of love. And that's a love you both have for each other.

Just get as many solid facts as you can now.

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Went to my dad's house to look for his will [View all] Taverner Oct 2013 OP

See if you can find an Advance Health Care Directive, a Lining Will, or a Health Care Proxy. rug Oct 2013 #1

I did - and he did not check live or die... Taverner Oct 2013 #2

Yup. rug Oct 2013 #3

Yes, my mom first...but she abdicated this Taverner Oct 2013 #4

Ok, you'll know what to do. rug Oct 2013 #6

I just want to know what my dad wants Taverner Oct 2013 #7

The question uually comes down to prognosis and pain. rug Oct 2013 #8

"Just get as many solid facts as you can now." Taverner Oct 2013 #9

Having everyone abdicate it and leave it on you is not fair davidpdx Oct 2013 #13

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Blue_In_AK Oct 2013 #5

Does he have a living will? My dad didn't want a feeding B Calm Oct 2013 #10

I'm so sorry for your troubles - hedgehog Oct 2013 #11

no one's advice here handmade34 Oct 2013 #12

Oh Taverner, I am so so very sorry about this. riderinthestorm Oct 2013 #14

Process is important. Gather information and talk it through with mom and brother Justice Oct 2013 #15

If it's up to you......don't ever think you made a wrong decision. a kennedy Oct 2013 #16

I just want what dad wants Taverner Oct 2013 #17