Went to my dad's house to look for his will

[davidpdx]

13. Having everyone abdicate it and leave it on you is not fair

The family needs to make a joint decision. You certainly don't want anyone coming back to you years from now saying that you were the one that did or didn't want him on life support. It is a hard decision, but that doesn't mean family members should put it on one person.

As I've stated before when this happened to my dad he had no will, no directive. Nothing. Pure chaos. It's the worst thing to have to deal with. In the end I advocated removing his tubes because the doctors specifically told me his chances of getting better were low and that he would have to have to tubes in to stay alive. My siblings agreed and that's what we did. I told my mom she'd better have her stuff in order because I can't go through that again.

I think you need a definite prognoses from the doctor (from more than one doctor if possible). Find out if he were to survive would he have to be on a machine for the rest of his life? After that you need to sit down with your family and talk about it. Tell them that their input is just as important given the decision is about a family member's life.

I know you'll make the right choice.