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Tue Nov 12, 2013, 05:51 PM

Nov 2013

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Need advice with a family issue...maybe just to vent. [View all] PassingFair Nov 2013 OP

Let her pay. rug Nov 2013 #1

Easy. Let her pay. HERVEPA Nov 2013 #2

I agree with Rug. Let her pay. nt ZombieHorde Nov 2013 #3

So in this particular instance, I should respond to her email..... PassingFair Nov 2013 #5

She's your husband's sister, so I would first talk ZombieHorde Nov 2013 #13

Yup...but he's not going to be happy about it. PassingFair Nov 2013 #14

Family politics can be very difficult. nt ZombieHorde Nov 2013 #15

Zing! geardaddy Nov 2013 #42

"I'm so sorry. We have previous plans we simply cannot break." Chan790 Nov 2013 #4

I could try this....but she might shuffle the date! nt PassingFair Nov 2013 #7

I agree. Not only let her pay, INSIST she does and while you are at the table..... A HERETIC I AM Nov 2013 #6

As you can see from the email, she has not, in this instance, offered to pay. PassingFair Nov 2013 #8

I would just let her know the prices are too much for you. Arugula Latte Nov 2013 #9

I'll have my husband tell her...but he might refuse to do it. PassingFair Nov 2013 #10

This message was self-deleted by its author seaglass Nov 2013 #11

Hmm. I think you said the perfect thing just then: Aristus Nov 2013 #12

Yeah. Well....we'll see how the chips fall. PassingFair Nov 2013 #18

You shouldn't feel guilty about her treating you. nomorenomore08 Nov 2013 #46

It would be mooching Dyedinthewoolliberal Nov 2013 #49

Her invite. Let her pay... Phentex Nov 2013 #16

That is what I do - if I invite, i'm prepared to pay sammytko Nov 2013 #34

I think you're creating a problem where there isn't one. Avalux Nov 2013 #17

Well, she hasn't offered to pay. PassingFair Nov 2013 #19

I'd bring it up again then... Avalux Nov 2013 #20

No, it's all on my part. PassingFair Nov 2013 #22

I'd just put it in simple terms DFW Nov 2013 #21

Maybe you guys could meet for dinner! PassingFair Nov 2013 #23

LOL!! DFW Nov 2013 #25

Dang....just looked that up! PassingFair Nov 2013 #27

Been there exactly once DFW Nov 2013 #29

This message was self-deleted by its author Gidney N Cloyd Nov 2013 #24

"Kids" are 18 and 22.... PassingFair Nov 2013 #26

My foodie family tends to cook at home AngryAmish Nov 2013 #28

Yeah... PassingFair Nov 2013 #30

By the way, my younger daughter is also an international corporate attorney in Europe DFW Nov 2013 #31

Your sister in law is a phonie not a foodie. I speak from a foodie mecca, the SF bay area. mulsh Nov 2013 #32

Find a local homeless mission and suggest that she cater a 'foodie' dinner for them, REALLY give.... cdsilv Nov 2013 #33

I know that you love your husband's avebury Nov 2013 #35

I invite my family out for dinner every Christmas when everyone is in town. Ikonoklast Nov 2013 #36

Rich people REALLY don't understand what it's like to be without money Lydia Leftcoast Nov 2013 #37

As I see it, I have two choices. PassingFair Nov 2013 #39

I read a story like this in my high school Spanish class KamaAina Nov 2013 #38

Bring your own dinner and ask the waiter for an extra plate. hunter Nov 2013 #40

Hahaha! PassingFair Nov 2013 #44

Even better make it Taco Bell davidpdx Nov 2013 #62

Eat something at home, and then order just appetizers at the restaurant. Hopefully they want your patricia92243 Nov 2013 #41

Ugh. That sounds awful. geardaddy Nov 2013 #43

Maybe we can pretend to leave our wallets at home? nt PassingFair Nov 2013 #45

What I would do, seriously... pipi_k Nov 2013 #47

Seriously, can't you just tell her you can't afford it? Beaverhausen Nov 2013 #48

I've ALREADY told her before. PassingFair Nov 2013 #50

Then she's a really selfish git TorchTheWitch Nov 2013 #51

Sounds like a marriage problem, and not a sister in law problem. Sheldon Cooper Nov 2013 #52

This was my original response. PassingFair Nov 2013 #58

Two ways to respond: Sheldon Cooper Nov 2013 #60

In terms of your husband I liked the advice in #35 davidpdx Nov 2013 #63

$500.00 would feed a lot of people. You should volunteer her to work B Calm Nov 2013 #53

I had this as a smaller problem a few weeks ago. IdaBriggs Nov 2013 #54

The way I handle any invite nowadays noamnety Nov 2013 #55

UPDATE.... PassingFair Nov 2013 #56

Go and let her pay! PasadenaTrudy Nov 2013 #57

We've had somewhat the opposite problem mentalsolstice Nov 2013 #59

Let her know each time that you can't afford it.... Captain Stern Nov 2013 #61