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44. + a Brazilian on the moving out

Tue Nov 19, 2013, 02:39 PM

Nov 2013

I had to move back in with the 'rents at 28 to help out with Mom (we won't get into that now), not even for any "failing" on my part - and after three years I was going out of my mind. I was still theoretically completely independent, still paying my car, insurance, clothes, whatnot, and in reasonable mental shape...but even then it's a psychological burden to be at home. Everything you do feels like it's not your own achievement no matter what, and even in the best of times it's a burden to bear.

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This message was self-deleted by its author [View all] Locut0s Nov 2013 OP

Up until age 22/23 I was pretty much on the right track. Earned my degree and everything. nomorenomore08 Nov 2013 #1

Peace my friend I'm sure things will work out for you... Locut0s Nov 2013 #24

Here's an Amazon link to my latest one: nomorenomore08 Nov 2013 #40

I didn't really grow up till 35. Paulie Nov 2013 #2

What were these said hobbies?... Locut0s Nov 2013 #25

Start working, hoss Tobin S. Nov 2013 #3

Thanks Tobin i agree with you 100%... Locut0s Nov 2013 #6

I've worked for a scrap yard Tobin S. Nov 2013 #7

I've only got a 2nd level licence for driving a regular car right now... Locut0s Nov 2013 #26

I'd go with something you can just step right into. Tobin S. Nov 2013 #34

Try landscaping. Joe Shlabotnik Nov 2013 #33

If you can't get a paying job right off, help out at something you like. Mopar151 Nov 2013 #18

I'm wondering if you've tried any meds ... Arugula Latte Nov 2013 #4

This message was self-deleted by its author Agschmid Nov 2013 #9

I second that. Going through life with untreated depression (or something similar) is like trying raccoon Nov 2013 #14

Best advice on the thread mzteris Nov 2013 #19

Thanks mzteris and Arugula Latte. I've been on 4 or 5 different meds over the years... Locut0s Nov 2013 #23

Hi Locut0s MadrasT Nov 2013 #35

Meds often need to be changed PasadenaTrudy Nov 2013 #42

It's never too late to stop wasting your life. snot Nov 2013 #5

Well I've sort of given up on the things that I used to dream about doing... Locut0s Nov 2013 #28

Getting your dream job or career isn't really all that. alarimer Nov 2013 #8

I'm around your age and I'll be getting my Master's degree in a few months. Vashta Nerada Nov 2013 #10

Gonna have to go a bit to catch up to me. ConcernedCanuk Nov 2013 #11

When my grandmother was alive laundry_queen Nov 2013 #12

Never grow up is the secret to being happy! B Calm Nov 2013 #13

Metaphorically, that's true. It doesn't work in reality... Locut0s Nov 2013 #29

You can't be proud of your accomplishments if you don't have any. IdaBriggs Nov 2013 #15

Thanks Ida... Locut0s Nov 2013 #30

+ a Brazilian on the moving out sir pball Nov 2013 #44

Never mind... I was being unfair in my earlier post. I know you probably have the best of intentions nomorenomore08 Nov 2013 #39

Thank you for editing (even tho it was funny in an "evil" way - lol!). IdaBriggs Nov 2013 #41

I think you're absolutely right. No point in wasting one's life because the world sucks. nomorenomore08 Nov 2013 #45

Do what makes YOU happy. Do not live for anyone else. a la izquierda Nov 2013 #16

Not Unusual beemer27 Nov 2013 #17

Watch the "Magnum, P.I." series Generic Brad Nov 2013 #20

LocutUs--just have all the Borg technology removed. librechik Nov 2013 #21

so quit refusing to grow up and just do it. magical thyme Nov 2013 #22

I'm 33 and started my career at 30 tabbycat31 Nov 2013 #27

Hundred years or so ago, there were places where self-doubters and directionless could run off to. haele Nov 2013 #31

For romantics, I guess there's always the French Foreign Legion, too Blue_Tires Nov 2013 #38

I didn't grow up till I was 25. I made applegrove Nov 2013 #32

Get a physchologist. Neoma Nov 2013 #36

You're not the first, nor the worst-and you have time... I did finish school "on time" Rowdyboy Nov 2013 #37

You can grow up or, you can just grow old. Your choice. Be pro-active about your health - Tuesday Afternoon Nov 2013 #43

You sound like an Improved version of myself TemujinKhan Aug 2014 #46