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LiberalEsto

(22,845 posts) Tue Dec 10, 2013, 09:01 PM Dec 2013

Would love some of your good vibes, if you have any to spare [View all]

I'm worried about my daughter.

She refuses to see a doctor or get an MRI for a possible slipped disc .She works as a waitress and complains of bad back pain.

She refuses to get counseling for some serious depression and anxiety issues. She has become bulimic. She went through some traumatic stuff a year ago.

She's 27, lives at home, barely earns enough for gas money, refuses to finish an associate degree that would only require 3 more credits. Or even take an online class in Quickbooks that might help her find another job.

I don't know what to do.

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Would love some of your good vibes, if you have any to spare [View all] LiberalEsto Dec 2013 OP

Sending good vibes... NYC_SKP Dec 2013 #1

Good vibes on the way ~~~~~~~~~ In_The_Wind Dec 2013 #2

Sending good vibes mokawanis Dec 2013 #3

Vibes incoming, my dear LiberalEsto... CaliforniaPeggy Dec 2013 #4

I had back pain. Went for treatment for depression. The SSRI fixed my applegrove Dec 2013 #5

Talk about two birds with one stone. If only fixing everyone's problems were that simple. nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #7

That's great news. Thanks for sharing. IrishAyes Dec 2013 #22

Good Thoughts antiquie Dec 2013 #6

This makes me sad. Sounds like she's given up, to a certain extent. nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #8

((((vibes)))) Brigid Dec 2013 #9

A child with a problem you can't fix rurallib Dec 2013 #10

Oh Dear LibEst, elleng Dec 2013 #11

i was sitting in the hospital getting sons back xrayed, when reading this. seabeyond Dec 2013 #12

Sending maximum vibes your way! Kaleva Dec 2013 #13

With all due consideration and respect, depression is not a character issue. IrishAyes Dec 2013 #23

It worked for my ex wife's youngest son. Kaleva Dec 2013 #37

Incentives and disincentives don't work for many mental health issues. hunter Dec 2013 #26

I agree with you LiberalEsto Dec 2013 #40

I hope the best for you and your daughter. Kaleva Dec 2013 #49

Perhaps some new shoes. chknltl Dec 2013 #14

Good idea. elleng Dec 2013 #16

Very. IrishAyes Dec 2013 #24

+2 nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #20

No kidding about the work shoes libodem Dec 2013 #35

This is a good idea LiberalEsto Dec 2013 #41

You know, shoes DO eventually wear out... chknltl Dec 2013 #54

Sending your daughter best vibes. femmocrat Dec 2013 #15

*Hugs* Vibs coming your way. Sounds like your daughter and I have some things in common... Locut0s Dec 2013 #17

}}}}vibes{{{{ cyberswede Dec 2013 #18

depression makes pain worse. pain makes depression worse. poverty and dependence makes both worse. magical thyme Dec 2013 #19

Thank you, m.t.! LiberalEsto Dec 2013 #30

fwiw, my dog's prior vet believed he had multiple herniated discs in the lumbar region magical thyme Dec 2013 #34

Always good vibes to spare for Duers. IrishAyes Dec 2013 #21

Wishing you and your daughter the best... Demo_Chris Dec 2013 #25

You are right about what her generation is facing. LiberalEsto Dec 2013 #43

If only, if only... Demo_Chris Dec 2013 #48

Vibes. Depression sucks. Chronic pain sucks. hunter Dec 2013 #27

my best to your daughter fizzgig Dec 2013 #28

A kick so more will see... chknltl Dec 2013 #29

Oh, boy, LE, you are not alone. mnhtnbb Dec 2013 #31

Thank you LiberalEsto Dec 2013 #44

Vibes for your daughter. malthaussen Dec 2013 #32

Prayers going your way - plus one for you - hedgehog Dec 2013 #33

Here come vibes! joeybee12 Dec 2013 #36

To piggy back off what another poster said new shoes would be a good thing to invest in Arcanetrance Dec 2013 #38

Start you daughter with water. RedCloud Dec 2013 #39

That's a good idea for lower back pain LiberalEsto Dec 2013 #45

Send you and your daughter all the vibes I can. HappyMe Dec 2013 #42

Thank you, and THANK YOU EVERYONE!!! LiberalEsto Dec 2013 #46

I will keep you in my thoughts. HappyMe Dec 2013 #47

can you try to get some legal custody over her ? JI7 Dec 2013 #50

You are both in my thoughts ashling Dec 2013 #51

Her confidence is broken down ZRT2209 Dec 2013 #52

also I would recommend reading motivational books ZRT2209 Dec 2013 #53