I'm sure you know my story by now since I've been posting off and on about it on here for so long. If not feel free to PM me.
As for advice depression is hard to deal with. Ultimately she will be the one who has to want to get help. You could try what Kaleva said and lay down some rules for staying. But ultimately only you know if this would be beneficial or make things worse. My parents are the type who never laid down any rules at all. Sometimes I wish they would, other times I'm not as sure.
The problem with depression, and all emotional illnesses, is that it plays with the very foundation of your personality and how you see the world. With other types of life problems you can always draw on the strengths of your personality and reason with the problem logically. With depression it's much more difficult as your base coping skills and the way you perceive the world at a fundamental level are affected.
Does she have any interests, hobbies, passions she likes to engage in? I would try to do my best to encourage her to throw herself into these as much as possible at a time like this. It's difficult as depression removes ones interests and enjoyment of things that used to give them pleasure. But at the same time she needs distractions so she isn't thinking the worst thoughts all the time. It's essential to shut off that mental tape recorded that she almost certainly has telling her negative thoughts all the time.
Does she have any friends? I would encourage her to go out and be with them as much as possible. She will NOT feel like doing so but forcing yourself to will again be something of a distraction. If she doesn't have friends she should look into joining some social clubs and get together to make some. Point her to www.meetup.com they will have local social groups in just about any subject she should be interested in.
I can understand the belimia, even though I don't have it myself. It stems from self hatred and gives her a feeling of control when she feels like she has lost control of everything else.
In the end though she is the one who will have to make the decision to get help. All you can do lend her your strength, make her feel like she can confide in you about ANYTHING and nudge her in the right direction. She has to be the one to actually take those steps though.
As nomorenomore08 says it seems giving up on life is something of of an issue with our generation, I know I have for long periods and I know at least a few others who have for periods too. Please don't lose hope though, there is always help and hope and we are always here to confide in !!
Oh and please take care to monitor yourself too. Don't let this drag you into your own depression. Letting that happen will only make it worse for the both of you. If you see it happening make sure to seek out help of your own.
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