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chknltl

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54. You know, shoes DO eventually wear out...

Fri Dec 13, 2013, 03:22 AM

Dec 2013

..but I see that you get the idea about finding a small way to help, one that the two of you can do together. The notion of inserts is a good one too, maybe find a way for the two of you to go get them. Even if she needs specific shoes for her job, that doesn't mean you can't go with her to get a second pair. Changing shoes (and even sometimes changing socks), in the middle of a long shift can have a nice affect on the feet. Waiters and waitresses really do spend a loooong time on their feet and foot comfort can be critical to how they get through their day.

Obviously this problem of hers is bigger than shoes, depression is something to take seriously-I know this from personal experience. There are quite a few thoughtful suggestions in this thread, that's one of the things I like best about DU. You have my vibes and hopes that the two of you get through this.

chris

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Would love some of your good vibes, if you have any to spare [View all] LiberalEsto Dec 2013 OP

Sending good vibes... NYC_SKP Dec 2013 #1

Good vibes on the way ~~~~~~~~~ In_The_Wind Dec 2013 #2

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Vibes incoming, my dear LiberalEsto... CaliforniaPeggy Dec 2013 #4

I had back pain. Went for treatment for depression. The SSRI fixed my applegrove Dec 2013 #5

Talk about two birds with one stone. If only fixing everyone's problems were that simple. nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #7

That's great news. Thanks for sharing. IrishAyes Dec 2013 #22

Good Thoughts antiquie Dec 2013 #6

This makes me sad. Sounds like she's given up, to a certain extent. nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #8

((((vibes)))) Brigid Dec 2013 #9

A child with a problem you can't fix rurallib Dec 2013 #10

Oh Dear LibEst, elleng Dec 2013 #11

i was sitting in the hospital getting sons back xrayed, when reading this. seabeyond Dec 2013 #12

Sending maximum vibes your way! Kaleva Dec 2013 #13

With all due consideration and respect, depression is not a character issue. IrishAyes Dec 2013 #23

It worked for my ex wife's youngest son. Kaleva Dec 2013 #37

Incentives and disincentives don't work for many mental health issues. hunter Dec 2013 #26

I agree with you LiberalEsto Dec 2013 #40

I hope the best for you and your daughter. Kaleva Dec 2013 #49

Perhaps some new shoes. chknltl Dec 2013 #14

Good idea. elleng Dec 2013 #16

Very. IrishAyes Dec 2013 #24

+2 nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #20

No kidding about the work shoes libodem Dec 2013 #35

This is a good idea LiberalEsto Dec 2013 #41

You know, shoes DO eventually wear out... chknltl Dec 2013 #54

Sending your daughter best vibes. femmocrat Dec 2013 #15

*Hugs* Vibs coming your way. Sounds like your daughter and I have some things in common... Locut0s Dec 2013 #17

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depression makes pain worse. pain makes depression worse. poverty and dependence makes both worse. magical thyme Dec 2013 #19

Thank you, m.t.! LiberalEsto Dec 2013 #30

fwiw, my dog's prior vet believed he had multiple herniated discs in the lumbar region magical thyme Dec 2013 #34

Always good vibes to spare for Duers. IrishAyes Dec 2013 #21

Wishing you and your daughter the best... Demo_Chris Dec 2013 #25

You are right about what her generation is facing. LiberalEsto Dec 2013 #43

If only, if only... Demo_Chris Dec 2013 #48

Vibes. Depression sucks. Chronic pain sucks. hunter Dec 2013 #27

my best to your daughter fizzgig Dec 2013 #28

A kick so more will see... chknltl Dec 2013 #29

Oh, boy, LE, you are not alone. mnhtnbb Dec 2013 #31

Thank you LiberalEsto Dec 2013 #44

Vibes for your daughter. malthaussen Dec 2013 #32

Prayers going your way - plus one for you - hedgehog Dec 2013 #33

Here come vibes! joeybee12 Dec 2013 #36

To piggy back off what another poster said new shoes would be a good thing to invest in Arcanetrance Dec 2013 #38

Start you daughter with water. RedCloud Dec 2013 #39

That's a good idea for lower back pain LiberalEsto Dec 2013 #45

Send you and your daughter all the vibes I can. HappyMe Dec 2013 #42

Thank you, and THANK YOU EVERYONE!!! LiberalEsto Dec 2013 #46

I will keep you in my thoughts. HappyMe Dec 2013 #47

can you try to get some legal custody over her ? JI7 Dec 2013 #50

You are both in my thoughts ashling Dec 2013 #51

Her confidence is broken down ZRT2209 Dec 2013 #52

also I would recommend reading motivational books ZRT2209 Dec 2013 #53