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vlyons

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18. Do you frequently perceive people as being cliquey?

Sun Jan 4, 2015, 08:10 AM

Jan 2015

Did you get snubbed in high school by the in crowd? You have a hyper-sensitivity to perceiving people as excluding you. Your perception is completely subjective -- as is every one else's for that matter. But the marvelous way that the mind works is that you can change your point of view and attitude about your perceptions. Not once has it ever occurred to me that DU is "cliquey." Yes I have observed some folks are very friendly and have ongoing in-jokes for years here. But I never feel "left out," because my assumption is that I belong just as much as any one else. Stop trying so hard to "fit in," and assume that you already do. Choose to change your point of view.

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This message was self-deleted by its author [View all] KMOD Jan 2015 OP

I appreciate your musical offerings! Lars39 Jan 2015 #1

It does take some effort to break through and establish friends on DU since there is a problem with TexasTowelie Jan 2015 #2

Did not realize DU was for making friends! Helen Borg Jan 2015 #13

May not be "what it's for," but it certainly happens. Pacifist Patriot Jan 2015 #19

yeah, there are cliques, Joe Shlabotnik Jan 2015 #3

you want I should kick your clique-identifying ass, KMOD? Skittles Jan 2015 #4

The number of times F4lconF16 Jan 2015 #6

you want I should kick your ass, F4lconF16? Skittles Jan 2015 #9

Put 'em up! F4lconF16 Jan 2015 #12

when I enlisted, women were not even allowed in the academies Skittles Jan 2015 #16

I know, right? cwydro Jan 2015 #43

Please don't stop posting. bravenak Jan 2015 #5

Agreed 1step Jan 2015 #7

There do seem to be long-term posters who are suspicious of everybody... MadDAsHell Jan 2015 #8

You probably picked up people on their guard. There's been lots of trolls of late... Spitfire of ATJ Jan 2015 #10

I always like your posts KMOD. lovemydog Jan 2015 #11

Meta! Iggo Jan 2015 #14

Most definitely. tblue Jan 2015 #15

I meant to respond to your "Who do you people think I am?" post ... betsuni Jan 2015 #17

"purely out of spite" OrwellwasRight Jan 2015 #30

Do you frequently perceive people as being cliquey? vlyons Jan 2015 #18

I didn't find DU until late 2008 magical thyme Jan 2015 #20

Agreed. There's days when its hard on long term posters too riderinthestorm Jan 2015 #21

Just act like you don't care whether or not people like you My Good Babushka Jan 2015 #22

the thing is Phentex Jan 2015 #34

Long-time DUers can post "Bweh?" and get 300 recs 1step Jan 2015 #23

And it's not just long time DUers OrwellwasRight Jan 2015 #31

Boring posts with lots of recs My Good Babushka Jan 2015 #35

Not sure what you mean? OrwellwasRight Jan 2015 #39

Hey, KMOD, Aloha.. I'm glad I caught your OP to see how you were feeling about it here. I would Cha Jan 2015 #24

Thanks for posting this instead of just disappearing. brer cat Jan 2015 #25

Don't go away. Borchkins Jan 2015 #26

It just takes awhile to get "noticed" around here. femmocrat Jan 2015 #27

Okay, maybe I've missed out on something. That does happen, things go right over my head...but Fla Dem Jan 2015 #28

Wanna join my clique?--I'm the only one in it so far..... panader0 Jan 2015 #29

Just post. You'll find your DU niche. Tobin S. Jan 2015 #32

You CANNOT judge anything by the number of replies. Ever. One of Du's most beloved... Phentex Jan 2015 #33

i was going to say it's better than it used to be fizzgig Jan 2015 #36

I'm so clueless that it all just goes right over my head anyway. dawg Jan 2015 #37

Good post. cwydro Jan 2015 #44

I guess I'm foolish in my old age, elleng Jan 2015 #38

You've already gotten the coveted threat of an ass kicking. Just post and "let it go" UTUSN Jan 2015 #40

Yeah, I sometimes wonder Jamaal510 Jan 2015 #41

I've been here for years. cwydro Jan 2015 #42

Thanks KMOD Jan 2015 #45