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[True Dough]

1. Sorry to hear about your misfortune, Tobin

Perhaps some of it is how you look at it. While you have undoubtedly experienced some discouraging setbacks, we can fall into a trap of believing that we're cursed and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy.

It may be easier said than done, but try to reflect on the things that are going well in your life. Hopefully you have your health. Remember that there are many people in the hospital with terminal illness, their days are numbered. And there are parents watching their children die of cancer and other hideous diseases.

You could live in Aleppo or have been born in sub-Saharan Africa with little to no nourishment. There are many far worse predicaments than your own. That perspective can sometimes help you realize what is truly important, and that's the basics.

Another option is to befriend someone who is also struggling in life, in an even worse situation. If you can voluntarily do a few things to help them out, you can feel good about that. You may not be able to control some of the negative things happening to you, but if you are able to assist someone else, that is within your realm of control and you can truly get a lift from philanthropy.

Best wishes.