Not all of our mothers were wonderful.

[Lucky Luciano]

14. Yep - my mother pretty much sucked too

I think she had undiagnosed borderline personality disorder.

My girlfriend who became my wife never liked my mother because my mother was the type who talked and never listened - hence by g/f avoided coming to dinner if my mom was in town - eventually, my mother got the message when I always had to explain why my girlfriend couldn't make it. When I said we were getting married, she got very upset. I pushed back - she called my wife a c**t, said all kinds of nasty things like it should have been me that died instead of my sister etc. So I cut her off 6 years ago.

When our son was born, my little brother broke the confidence I gave him never to tell her that a son was on the way - then she demanded pictures and visitation - fuck off I said...then she threatened to throw my fathers ashes in the sewer. I ignored that threat. As expected, it was an empty threat - I confirmed when she died in October and we had to get to her house to clean it out - we found the ashes. My older brother broke my confidence by sending her a single picture of my son (he didn't have more pics because we were always worried about a leak to my mother) - he was threatened with being written out of the will which isn't even that much - and unfortunately, he is morally awful when it comes to wills. So now, my older brother is cut off and my younger brother too! I can be more forgiving there, but my wife is a "one strike and you're out" type of person - i.e. "If someone tells you who they are, believe them the first time."

In the end, when she died, I was pretty much like "Whatevs" .