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mitch96

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16. My mother was, deep down, a good woman, but confused, lonely, alcoholic

Sun May 14, 2017, 10:27 AM

May 2017

Same here...
Never knew what was gonna happen next growing up. She taught me alot about life though.
Like trust.
It goes both ways. You can trust it's gonna happen or you can trust it's not gonna happen.
When drunk she would promise the little 6 year old a new bike, then smack him when sober for lying about a new bike..
So I learned from an early age, if someone says or does something and then it happens, you can trust that statement or action will happen in the future. If someone says or does something and it does not happen, well you can trust that person does not follow thru on the statement or action in the future... Followed that rule all my life. Crappy way to learn it but it stuck!!
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Not all of our mothers were wonderful. [View all] PoindexterOglethorpe May 2017 OP

Not all mothers. bcbink May 2017 #1

Poindexter, this is a good thing to say today, though I suspect you'll get some flak. Squinch May 2017 #2

Thank you. PoindexterOglethorpe May 2017 #4

Agreeing with you Wawannabe May 2017 #3

Thank you. PoindexterOglethorpe May 2017 #5

Thank you for writing this. Shanti Mama May 2017 #6

Yep. There needs to be a PoindexterOglethorpe May 2017 #7

A few other childless old lady friends and I celebrate Unmother's Day The Velveteen Ocelot May 2017 #23

March 8th. Kali May 2017 #44

My mother was, deep down, a good woman, but confused, lonely, alcoholic mitch96 May 2017 #16

Argh. I still hear my dead mother's voice in my head betsuni May 2017 #8

My mom is great, but... a la izquierda May 2017 #9

I always meet this day with sadness Generic Brad May 2017 #10

Very relevant thing to say today... llmart May 2017 #11

I had a great mom, but mchill May 2017 #12

There will be no "deathbed reunion" BallardWA May 2017 #13

Yep - my mother pretty much sucked too Lucky Luciano May 2017 #14

Lucky you BallardWA May 2017 #17

My mother Wawannabe May 2017 #39

My children's mother left when my kids were 10, 3, 2 and 2. panader0 May 2017 #15

Thanks for starting this thread, Canoe52 May 2017 #18

Hi canoe! Wawannabe May 2017 #40

My mother is narcissistic to a degree. Duppers May 2017 #19

3 kids, 5 grandkids, I think I can say mountain grammy May 2017 #20

I also think motherhood is overrated. BlancheSplanchnik May 2017 #29

Ain't that the truth! mountain grammy May 2017 #33

Hi mg!! BlancheSplanchnik May 2017 #47

My wife was my mother-in-law's least favorite child. Early in our marriage, we moved... NNadir May 2017 #21

Really. mnhtnbb May 2017 #22

Go girl! Wawannabe May 2017 #41

There was no funeral or memorial service for my mother mnhtnbb May 2017 #45

My post would say: Not all of our fathers were wonderful. TheOther95Percent May 2017 #24

My father was an ahole. SwissTony May 2017 #38

"to those women who are not mothers, please don't feel bad or sorry for yourself." Never occurred WinkyDink May 2017 #25

Thank you for starting this thread oldtime dfl_er May 2017 #26

My mother was pretty monstrous. Or helicoptering and enmeshed. BlancheSplanchnik May 2017 #27

My Mother Turbineguy May 2017 #28

Hi Turbineguy Wawannabe May 2017 #42

Someone wished me a happy Mother's Day yesterday. I have no kids. alarimer May 2017 #30

I think it's sexist and patronizing. athena May 2017 #34

I never wanted kids either. I decided, like you, I wasn't going to put anyone through what I went raccoon May 2017 #50

My mother was a crappy mother. Chemisse May 2017 #31

Hugs Wawannabe May 2017 #43

I was going to hit recommend on this, until I got to the part athena May 2017 #32

I am sincerely sorry you were offended by that part. PoindexterOglethorpe May 2017 #35

I'm sorry for going off on you. athena May 2017 #36

Don't worry about it. PoindexterOglethorpe May 2017 #46

My own Mother died a year ago yesterday Paula Sims May 2017 #37

Of course not. LWolf May 2017 #48

when I was 4 or 5 my mom dragged me screaming and pleading OriginalGeek May 2017 #49

When I was growing up Bayard May 2017 #51

My mother had loads of issues Freddie May 2017 #52