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28. My Mother

Reply to PoindexterOglethorpe (Original post)

Sun May 14, 2017, 12:32 PM

May 2017

became a widow at age 25. I think if I had not been born, she could have started a new life, as it were, leaving her past behind. My existence prevented that. She got remarried and had 3 more children, but my Father's shadow was ever present and the marriage did not work out.

It wasn't until I was taking care of her during her last days of life and all the anger, resentment and guilt fell away, I discovered the woman my Father fell in love with.

So based on those 2 days, I wish her Happy Mothers day.

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Not all of our mothers were wonderful. [View all] PoindexterOglethorpe May 2017 OP

Not all mothers. bcbink May 2017 #1

Poindexter, this is a good thing to say today, though I suspect you'll get some flak. Squinch May 2017 #2

Thank you. PoindexterOglethorpe May 2017 #4

Agreeing with you Wawannabe May 2017 #3

Thank you. PoindexterOglethorpe May 2017 #5

Thank you for writing this. Shanti Mama May 2017 #6

Yep. There needs to be a PoindexterOglethorpe May 2017 #7

A few other childless old lady friends and I celebrate Unmother's Day The Velveteen Ocelot May 2017 #23

March 8th. Kali May 2017 #44

My mother was, deep down, a good woman, but confused, lonely, alcoholic mitch96 May 2017 #16

Argh. I still hear my dead mother's voice in my head betsuni May 2017 #8

My mom is great, but... a la izquierda May 2017 #9

I always meet this day with sadness Generic Brad May 2017 #10

Very relevant thing to say today... llmart May 2017 #11

I had a great mom, but mchill May 2017 #12

There will be no "deathbed reunion" BallardWA May 2017 #13

Yep - my mother pretty much sucked too Lucky Luciano May 2017 #14

Lucky you BallardWA May 2017 #17

My mother Wawannabe May 2017 #39

My children's mother left when my kids were 10, 3, 2 and 2. panader0 May 2017 #15

Thanks for starting this thread, Canoe52 May 2017 #18

Hi canoe! Wawannabe May 2017 #40

My mother is narcissistic to a degree. Duppers May 2017 #19

3 kids, 5 grandkids, I think I can say mountain grammy May 2017 #20

I also think motherhood is overrated. BlancheSplanchnik May 2017 #29

Ain't that the truth! mountain grammy May 2017 #33

Hi mg!! BlancheSplanchnik May 2017 #47

My wife was my mother-in-law's least favorite child. Early in our marriage, we moved... NNadir May 2017 #21

Really. mnhtnbb May 2017 #22

Go girl! Wawannabe May 2017 #41

There was no funeral or memorial service for my mother mnhtnbb May 2017 #45

My post would say: Not all of our fathers were wonderful. TheOther95Percent May 2017 #24

My father was an ahole. SwissTony May 2017 #38

"to those women who are not mothers, please don't feel bad or sorry for yourself." Never occurred WinkyDink May 2017 #25

Thank you for starting this thread oldtime dfl_er May 2017 #26

My mother was pretty monstrous. Or helicoptering and enmeshed. BlancheSplanchnik May 2017 #27

My Mother Turbineguy May 2017 #28

Hi Turbineguy Wawannabe May 2017 #42

Someone wished me a happy Mother's Day yesterday. I have no kids. alarimer May 2017 #30

I think it's sexist and patronizing. athena May 2017 #34

I never wanted kids either. I decided, like you, I wasn't going to put anyone through what I went raccoon May 2017 #50

My mother was a crappy mother. Chemisse May 2017 #31

Hugs Wawannabe May 2017 #43

I was going to hit recommend on this, until I got to the part athena May 2017 #32

I am sincerely sorry you were offended by that part. PoindexterOglethorpe May 2017 #35

I'm sorry for going off on you. athena May 2017 #36

Don't worry about it. PoindexterOglethorpe May 2017 #46

My own Mother died a year ago yesterday Paula Sims May 2017 #37

Of course not. LWolf May 2017 #48

when I was 4 or 5 my mom dragged me screaming and pleading OriginalGeek May 2017 #49

When I was growing up Bayard May 2017 #51

My mother had loads of issues Freddie May 2017 #52