People are always so quick to find an excuse too - oh her childhood must have been bad, oh there must have been something really wrong in her past. No - she is just an awful person.
My husband, bless his heart, at first thought it had to be brain damage (because my mom had brain aneurysms) and I explained to him that if anything, it mellowed her a bit. The longer he has known her, the more he has seen her true nature and is honestly surprised I am not locked up either in jail or an institution.
My grandparents (her parents) were the most loving people I have ever known, they raised me in some respect and gave me the unconditional love a child needs. Had it not been for them, no idea what would have happened to me. It boggles the mind that they raised her - it can't all be nurture vs nature.
She told me almost daily that I was an awful, mean, cruel, nasty person (which is how I learned about projection and recognize it so quickly in a certain orange Cheeto). I believed it then, and still believe it to my core that I am some broken awful person (I can logically "know" I am not - but how I feel is completely different).
I am sorry for what you had to endure and I hope you can find the peace you are looking for 
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