[font color="navy" face="Verdana"]I can empathize with you and many others here. My viciously domineering mother wanted a clone, not a daughter. She never forgave me for growing out of timid, malleable obedience and developing a mind, ideas, goals, and life of my own, different from hers - and there was non-stop hell to pay for it for decades.
Her social contacts think she's just wonderful, though, since she assumes an entirely different personality and demeanor for them. But they know nothing, just as those who try to lecture you about your feelings know nothing.
It took most of my adult life, along with some professional help, but I'm actually grateful to my mother now for demonstrating so vividly the kind of person I would never want to be - thus helping form the person I am (and like) today.
Hang in there. Be proud of your persistence and strength in overcoming your abusive upbringing as well as the ignorant judgments of others. Be the self you love.
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