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46. I appreciate threads like this and others...

Mon May 15, 2017, 08:54 AM

May 2017

It's difficult for many people to understand. And now that I am a mother myself, it's even harder for me to understand! People close to me don't ask about my mother anymore. It's a strange place to be in.

But I am very fortunate to have a near perfect mother-in-law who has shown me love and kindness and acceptance for 25 years now. I am grateful for that.

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Big hug to all of those who have/had a shitty mom and is having a tough time today [View all] nadine_mn May 2017 OP

Took courage to post cilla4progress May 2017 #1

I had a wonderful Mom, but I appeciate this point and likewise send my thoughts to those who did not hlthe2b May 2017 #2

Seconded... I had parents who were great people. But I can understand TheDebbieDee May 2017 #3

Ditto lostnfound May 2017 #4

I had a mom exactly like yours. riverbendviewgal May 2017 #5

I'm always amazed.... Rorey May 2017 #6

I have to agree bad dads everyone shakes their head like oh yeah I understand but bad moms? lunasun May 2017 #7

Yes, had PTSD nitemares last nite jodymarie aimee May 2017 #8

oh you had a narcissist mom too - I recognize nadine_mn May 2017 #9

I too am slow to anger, forgave way too much cpamomfromtexas May 2017 #18

Hang tough. It took me forever to disengage, but it was the best thing I ever did. Squinch May 2017 #10

Forget the guilt. Think of what it's been like since no contact and how you wouldn't want to lunasun May 2017 #13

Thank You for Your understanding .. furtheradu May 2017 #11

Had a great Dad. My mother was difficult. Jarqui May 2017 #12

Aye my mom was far from perfect but I still miss her and would do anything to have more time cstanleytech May 2017 #14

Grandmother terrorized me. Chasstev365 May 2017 #15

I can identify. Nightmare really. cpamomfromtexas May 2017 #16

K&R for a usually unacknowledged truth. nt zentrum May 2017 #17

Yep bpositive May 2017 #19

My mother was a cold blooded monster! Mountain Mule May 2017 #20

That's horrible onlyadream May 2017 #22

Oh I am so sorry - what an awful experience for you nadine_mn May 2017 #27

You and I are truly survivors! Mountain Mule May 2017 #44

I understand onlyadream May 2017 #21

I feel sad for my mom. She had no way to be happy, thus neither did I. Then. Augiedog May 2017 #23

Thank you Generic Brad May 2017 #24

I always had the same thing on Fathers Day. Trying to pick out a card that didn't feel hypocritical Amaryllis May 2017 #25

You are definitely not the only one TxDemChem May 2017 #26

I thank my lucky stars .... LenaBaby61 May 2017 #28

Thank you for posting. citizen blues May 2017 #29

People can be such jerks...I'm sorry nadine_mn May 2017 #32

Big hug back, and thx for opening pnwest May 2017 #30

One of the reasons I didn't have kids either nadine_mn May 2017 #33

So sorry OceanChick May 2017 #31

I miss her... Snackshack May 2017 #34

No nadine_mn May 2017 #38

Message deleted by DU the Administrators stopwastingmymoney May 2017 #43

I was relieved when my mother died... skypilot May 2017 #49

Don't even try to explain. athena May 2017 #52

I don't miss mine at all lunasun May 2017 #42

i know MFM008 May 2017 #35

Well said. silverweb May 2017 #36

Sib, is that you? politicat May 2017 #37

Congrats on 18 months !! Many more to you . People with functioning mothers will try to lunasun May 2017 #40

Get a copy of this and curl up in front of the TV in a fetal position... Rollo May 2017 #39

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I get you Bettie May 2017 #45

I appreciate threads like this and others... Phentex May 2017 #46

Thank You! Duppers May 2017 #47

hugs to you on such a difficult day. niyad May 2017 #48

Therapy.... MountainMama May 2017 #50

hugs to all of you, Been there, done that , got the tee shirt. demigoddess May 2017 #51

I wish I could give you a big, big hug....I'm glad the day is over. I highly recommend an article Upthevibe May 2017 #53

Mine was a fucking monster...to put it nicely. bikebloke May 2017 #54