Not all of our mothers were wonderful.

[Freddie]

52. My mother had loads of issues

Severe depression - tried to commit suicide twice, once when I was pregnant and had a 3 year old. Her depression manifested mainly in hypochondria - she ALWAYS had something wrong with her and whined about it constantly. Lived to 84. Very self-centered which is typical of people with mental illness.
She was an elementary teacher and by all accounts an excellent one, many former students and fellow teachers came to her funeral and spoke of her very fondly. It was retirement - no longer having a reason to get up in the morning - that triggered her latent depression.
She was extremely dependent on Dad and they did *everything* together, at her insistence (not his). She resented his interests that didn't include her.
She was a wonderful mother when we were little. By the time my kids came along she was too tired or "sick" to be much of a grandmother.
Now that I'm 60 when I look in the mirror I see her face. I'm doing everything I can to NOT be my mother.