Literature, advice for family members coming to terms with a gay son

[William769]

1. I used unconditional love.

My father had already passed away when I came out, my mother barely batted an eye but my brothers & sisters thats another can of worms. Rednecks all of them! I told them I would accept nothing less than unconditional love, that meant all of me not just part of me. This was back in the early 90's. To this day I still do not speak to my sisters they are homophobic jerks! My brothers it took a couple of years but they came around (you may not want to hear that, but sometimes it takes a while to break that barrier). When I finally reconciled with my brothers (on my terms unconditional love) they actually became my best friends & realized Gay people are not as different as them. My sisters I will probably never speak to again as long as I live, but hey it's their loss.

I guess what I am trying to say is your free to be who you are. They need to accept you on your terms not theirs. Lifes to short enjoy it with the people you love.

This was my experience, I hope sharing it with you can help guide on the path you need to take.

Peace
Bill